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    Default The right defense against a physical attack

    What is your approach to how a child reacts or defends themselves against a physical attack? Say, for example another child comes to attack (punching, kicking, basically out for blood) your child- what do you tell them to do? Obviously, this will impact how fights in the playground will result so getting the right approach is important.

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    Default The right defense against a physical attack

    Hmmm this is a tough one! We've told ds to walk away and tell the teacher or yell out to stop it and leave him alone and if they keep going and dont listen then he can fight back. I hate the thought of my son being picked on or in a fight but at the end of the day I don't want him to stand there and cop punches and kicks from a little turd who is out for it and who won't let him walk away. It's really hard to know what the right thing is to tell them.

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    I would tell dd to walk or run away and report it to someone in authority / an adult / me - straight away.

    Adding fuel to the fire by retaliating only makes the problem worse imo. 2 wrongs dont make a right.

    If she pysically couldnt get away then self defence is acceptable. Not with the intention to cause harm but to simply escape the situation and protect herself from further harm

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    Default The right defense against a physical attack

    Quote Originally Posted by Littlemissellie View Post
    I would tell dd to walk or run away and report it to someone in authority / an adult / me - straight away.

    Adding fuel to the fire by retaliating only makes the problem worse imo. 2 wrongs dont make a right.

    If she pysically couldnt get away then self defence is acceptable. Not with the intention to cause harm but to simply escape the situation and protect herself from further harm
    This is what we've taught DD exactly....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mum2EandR View Post
    This is what we've taught DD exactly....
    Yes us too.

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    I think it's fair for them to react physically so they can move away. Say, someone is kicking them. I think it's fair for them to push the other person, punch the other person, whatever it takes to get the other person to stop for a few moments, so they can bugger off.

    If someone starts attacking you, bludgeoning them isn't the right reaction and could still get you into a lot of trouble anyway, which isn't what you want. Just a shove, a single punch, something like that... to make them back off for long enough for you to safely escape.

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    If it's a one off then I encourage them to walk away or tell the teacher/me.

    If it's ongoing and a problem for the child then I tell them to defend themselves and to be honest I don't really care if they 'hurt' the kid back. In real life, if someone thumped me chances are I would thump them back I would never teach my kids to be aggresive, but sometimes in life we have to stand up for ourselves. Many times in the playground my kids have been assaulted and it hasn't been seen... teacher's can't always be there. Kids have to learn to deal with it, and as a pp said a bully will continue on until someone stands up to them.

    ETA just to say that I am referring to school aged kiddies in my post.
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