I have a 9 year old girl who is hell bent on making herself the victim. She always plays the victim in every scenario, is determined that EVERYONE is mean to her, is picking on her, doesnt like her, shes ALWAYS in trouble. Throws mega emotional tantrums, whaling and crying, sobbing in her room, sometimes in her wardrobe for extra effect. She has always been an emotional child, right from birth. She's super sensitive, very intelligent, allergic/intollerent to many things. She has an awesome scence of humour, is a lovely, caring child.
She's becoming so focussed on being the victim and martyering herself thats its becoming quite bullying on the rest of us. If her sister tries to play with her or talk to her, shes immediately picking on her, ruining her games, ALWAYS mean to her, if I get her to do something, I am ALWAYS telling her off. Its getting so we have to walk on egg shells around her. Shes making life difficult and quite miserable.
She's had alot going on, granted, our divorce, then repartnering, moving, new school, baby on the way, overseas trip, its alot, I get it. But what on earth can I do? Please, any suggestions are more than welcome.
I have tried talking to her, but it gets nowhere as its all poor me, she always, you always, and cannot see the part she is playing in it all and I cant have a rational conversation with her.