If you do stay make him hire a cleaner and gardener. But honestly it will not get better, if you stay it will be harder to leave when you have a baby.
Last edited by waterlily; 06-01-2013 at 07:25.
Op I really hope things get better. I like the suggestion of getting him to pay for a cleaner if he can't be bothered to help. He really needs to pull his finger out and take care of the yard though, if he wants to be stereotypical of roles that's definitely his job!
Go to your mums, rest for a few days, let him fend for himself. Let him know how upset you are and how serious you are about needing his help. Good luck
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Has he always been a lazy sod? Was it a planned pregnancy?
I think going to stay with your mum would be a good idea. Maybe threaten to leave?
I'm not saying actually do it, but he might need a shock?
If you could stay away from him for a while it might do the trick.
So sorry you are going though this, pregnancy can be hard enough without getting any help
Can you relax the housework etc for now, just cook for yourself, do your own washing etc don't do anything for him. Just do the bare minimum until he wakes up to himself.
Though I'd be concerned about things getting worse when you are at home all day if he already doesn't respect that you work full time will he be any more considerate when you are caring for an infant 24/7?
Have you talked to him about the toll on you and also that he's being a selfish inconsiderate git?
I agree though if you can get away for a few days or so.
Sorry you're in this situation
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Sorry to barge in on this discussion but I'm 28 weeks pregnant and single. I've bought all my baby goods, including car seat, pram, formula, bath station, change station etc and have had to carry them into my apartment by myself. I do all my grocery shopping, clean and vacume, do my own cooking, cleaning and washing and I think I'm doing fine
Why stay with someone who is extra baggage when you've got a precious bub on its way who will most definitely take priority over everything? Be strong, clear your mind and really think about what's best for you and for bub
All the best.
OP go to your mums for a week , let him live in his own filth . If the house is a vile mess on your return turn around and go back to your mums.
Show him this thread also .
This is a time you need to pull together as a couple it's not a good idea to be so stressed and so unhappy at this stage . He needs to step up and support you . Something amazing is about to happen to you and it would be awesome to start the life of this child with happy parents .
Good luck OP .
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