We had friends over for new year for a BBQ. Whilst the boys were in the shed looking at their remote control cars the ladies sat outside watching children. In the pool (older children 7 yrs +). Conversation started amongst the girls and not long into the convo, another wife questioned wether the boys had started drinking. I said yeah, probably, as normal cause they hangout after work most days and have a beer. This wife knows they do this, but one of the other g/Fs (who I had meet twice before in social outings not in relaxed home setting tho) questioned that they did it every day. I said yes, but it's no big issue for me as its not excessive and it's his relax time. Everyone is usually gone by 7pm and that's when we have dinner etc.
She said. I knew he was lieing to me, he finishes at 4 but is never home till 7 and tells me he is working late. Whilst boys start cooking BBQ, she informs him that she knows he been lieing about finishing work late. etc. Privately.
Friend tells dp that I told gf and that what was my problem? Like i knew he didnt tell her, My dp said go ask her ur self I know nothing. He didn't ask me, and they left.
I feel guilty that I may have caused an argument on nye? But not for telling her as he's the one lieing to her and I believe honesty is best. Am I wrong tho? But how am I supposed to chat to her if I dont know what he tells her?
Does that all make sense? I hope so.