I think you really need to find out the charges OP. you need to know where you stand and start planning the future from this. The fact he wont tell you and other states are trying to get hom back, its serious.
Personally I would go, you have a right to know. I also agree with others that say 4 months is easy to put on a front. It's a very short space of time.
Knowledge is power.
All the best.
Wow I'd be wanting answers so I would be going to. Better to know the truth than not. You're only going to keep worrying and thinking bad case scenarios.
I'm not going to speculate about whether his Mum knows the charges or what the charges might actually be.
However, I will say this: go to court for YOURSELF. This is your life. You need to take control of it and find out what is happening instead of being run through the ringer. I think it would be foolish not to.
I just wanted to say that I had an ex years ago that was arrested and charged with theft of firearms along with several other things. He and his brother both got done for it.
He was (so I thought) a lovely guy. He was kind, we rarely argued and I'd been with him for 5 years. We had our issues but nothing that would have made me suspect that kind of activity. He'd been going to court and dealing with lawyers etc. all behind my back for a few months before I found out what was going on and the only reason I DID find out was that his brother accidentally let slip.
If they don't want you to know and actively try to hide it, it's generally because it's bad.
My point is that 4 months is not long enough to know someone if 5 years isn't either. You can never tell what someone is hiding and I had every reason to suspect his behaviour because he'd been up to some other shifty stuff around the same time (although that all related to cheating/relationship issues). I was watching his EVERY move and I didn't see anything to make me suspect his involvement with those illegal activities.
Go to court. Find out what you can. Because the fact of the matter is that burying your head in the sand even for a short while won't change who he really is or what he's done.
I know that sounds a bit harsh but I really want you to have the chance to come through whatever has happened in a better shape than I did with my ex . I thought that my ex was the man I would marry and have a family with. How could I possibly marry someone that hid criminal charges, court cases, and warrants for arrest from me for about 6 months?
I'm so sorry you are in this predicament, but I'm thinking along the lines of everyone else. It seems strange his own mother doesn't want to find out the charges?
I do hope it's some sort of misunderstanding, but for your own sake and piece of mind go to the hearing, find out what the charges are and decide if it's something you can live with if you had to and find out what this persons past is.
I hope he is innocent.
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