OP, I am truly sorry you are in this situation. It would be a massive shock and there would be a lot of emotions to deal with, so I can totally understand that it would take some time to get your head around. IMO you are doing completely the right thing by looking after yourself and your DD's needs first. Yes of course you need to know what your dp is charged with but you're also right that waiting another day to find out wont make any difference, and having that extra time to (at least partly) get over the shock might even be a good thing as it will let you respond more objectively. The transcript is an excellent idea because it will spell it out in black and white.
You sound as though you are fully aware of all the possibilities here and are prepared to make the hard decisions to keep yourself and your daughter safe - that doesn't take away the pain of it though or mean you can't grieve for how things might have been.
Although hopefully it is an error and will all work out ok
Just wanted to let you know I am thinking of you and sending you best wishes and I hope it gets sorted out quickly for you one way or another.