And of course i want to know!! I want to know if i'll ever see him again, I want to know what he has/hasnt done, i want to know if he's ok, and i want to know why its happening now. Its obvious that these arent new charges, so when did it happen, why did it happen, what was the circumstances. BUT as i said, i will know that on Monday, no earlier, I could have gone to the court this morning and possibly have found out, but i couldnt do it. I couldnt. Call me weak, call me unproductive, but i physically and emotionally could not have driven the 30minutes and sat in that court room. As much as i love him, i also need to consider myself. And yes my child. Obviously, she comes 1st and if he has done something to make me what to keep her away from him, thats EXACTLY what i'll do. Theres no way i'd put my little girl in danger, no matter how i feel about someone. She comes 1st and always will. Make no mistake in that.
OP, huge hugs. I'm glad that you did what you felt was best for you and your situation. I absolutely agree about finding out what the charges are, but for your piece of mind.
Transcripts are an excellent idea.
Take some "you" time and just relax as best you can until Monday comes and you can find out.
All the best.
You have known him 4 months and you say your in love, that he is kind, gentle etc... How do you think some criminals like Pedophiles or frauds work?! They gain trust off others, people usually do fall in love with them, they manipulate, crawl their way into people's lives and do what they do best.. I'm sorry but a driving offense that you didn't know about or forgot to pay, that is understandable.
But being extradited?!? That's extreme, I would be totally shocked if there was a mix up.
If my husband was extradited I wouldn't be able to wait to know what the hell he has done or is being accused of doing.
I would NEED to know what risk I possibly put my self and my family in.
Please correct me if I'm wrong, but someone can only be extradited in Australia if they face a crime that brings more than a 2 year sentence?
It's a very well planned act, lots of money involved, legal work, a person doesn't just get extradited.. It's a last resort for authorities.. For crimes much more bigger than little stuff ups.
He had to know and he was most likely hiding it from you, how does someone not know they are wanted in another state for a crime holding a minimum 2 year sentence? He could have fled to a new state AFTER his first court hearing. Did you ever ask him why he moved interstate?
I would be asking myself what the hell could he have hidden from me that holds at least a 2 year sentence?!?!
I would have gone to court, if something huge stopped me from going I would be ringing up for transcripts ASAP.
Has bail been set?
To be going to a hearing on a Saturday and being in court again on Monday is pretty serious.
If I found out my husband was accused of crimes that could involve
Pedophilia, Murder, Fraud, bank fraud, Rape, Assault, robbery, Kidnapping, criminal use of fire arms, drugs and Terrorism just to name a few I would be wanting to know every detail, I would be wanting to know what kind of person my family has been around.
How don't you know that once you find out what his charge(s) are you have a lightbulb moment and remember some of his actions that you were previously oblivious too fit in with the crime he is up against?
You could help in this if you suddenly realize that yes he did show signs of being involved in X,Y,Z.
Put your love for him aside for a second and just think what if this crime involved another person that he has done something unforgivable to?
Think of women in DV relationships, I have never known one to say "He was abusive from the moment we met" most have no idea who the person they fell in love with is really like until time goes by and true colors show, 4 months is not enough time to say you 100% know him, truth is you didn't know him.. Otherwise you wouldn't be shocked by all this.
Yes people make mistakes, but if I was with a man who was once/is capable of any those things I'm sorry but I would learn not to love him, and walk away... Far away.
You could be at risk, your daughter could be at risk.
Yep i completely agree with you Lumi and thats exactly what i plan to do. Obviously i cannot call the court now, being a saturday night, but i will 9am on monday and explain why i want the transcripts. If i can help the police, of course i would.
Also do we really think that he would have been given sole custody of a child if he was a big huge criminal? Would the courts really let some crazy criminal be a single dad?
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Oh and he moved interstate because the mother of his child did, at at that time she had custody. So he followed her to this state but a different town, which is the town his mother and other family have lived in for 10yrs. So i know the reason he moved here, yes.
LoveMyFam, thats something thats really confusing me. DP was in court for child custody issues less than 3 months ago (for final orders, finally!) and so obviously they had all of his details, everything to where he works, where he lives, the childs grandparents names etc, so why did nothing happen then???
Thats what leads me to believe that perhaps the childs mother is involved somehow. Ive seen text messages from her, acussing him of neglect, saying it was DP's fault she had to leave the child abandoned at the police station over a yr ago for DP to be called to pick him up (and hes had him ever since).
This did just happen, and he's in jail in another state, she's hardly in danger and I fully believe you would 100% protect your daughter. I really only find it strange that no one knows what he's charged with, like not even his mum or his brother by now? But if you can wait then it doesn't change anything whether you find out now or wait till Monday I guess.
I don't know you or the guy and even I'm sooooo curious now!!!
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