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    Default Re: Labour and Birth - What you wish you had known then?

    Quote Originally Posted by Pru40 View Post
    Great thread idea.

    I'd love to hear from those who have had an elective Caesarean section and regretted it... or not.

    Also, what's labour and birth like after a long gap between kids. And what's it like when you're over 40. Anything different to anticipate?

    I'm 30 weeks pregnant and planning on an elective C-section in a private hospital. I'm thinking less risk to baby, no pain and avoiding anxiety about my lack of fitness. My obstetrician suggests an induction at 38 weeks. But like the previous poster I recall a very painful birth of my son with the Syntocinon drip (15 years ago now but that memory is burned in).

    I've been watching "One born every minute" on SBS as mental preparation.

    My earlier experiences of labour and birth taught me that a birth plan can be largely irrelevant on the day and the only things I really needed from the carefully packed bags & supplies I took to hospital were hair ties, socks and lemonade ice blocks. I was only upset by things I hadn't expected or knew nothing of. I also found out that I had a strong instinct to be alone and not be touched while labouring - hadn't realised that was an option or a 'normal' feeling.
    I would not say a c section is pain free for everyone. I got sick during mine as blood pressure plummeted and felt horrible for a while after. You are made to stay in bed for 24 hrs after and when I did get up I felt like an old lady, could hardly walk. Was on pain killers for a few days after and felt quite unwell. Also got anemic from blood loss.

    Now I know its not like this for everyone. But i was young and fit and it had this effect on me. I would never say a c section is the easy option. Doing all I can to avoid it this time.

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    Default Labour and Birth - What you wish you had known then?

    But my biggest regret is being induced in the first place.

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    Default Labour and Birth - What you wish you had known then?

    Quote Originally Posted by SPC View Post
    I regret not hiring a private midwife. I feel that I was lacking advocacy and although I'm very assertive usually, turns out I'm a push over during labour.
    Exactly this.

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    I wish we had taken more photos. Our labour was so quick and intense that I didn't really think about it and when I did it didn't see the value in it. I so wish that I had a photographic account of the experience.

    I am grateful that a friend shared her experience of repeating positive statements to herself when feeling overwhelmed or incapable. I reminded myself that i am strong and capable when contractions overwhelmed.

    Water injections were fabulous and wished I had used them earlier in labour. I wished I had known how they would change my outlook and provide instant relief to my back pain.

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    Quote Originally Posted by net View Post
    I wish we had taken more photos.
    Me too. Aim for too many and photograph everything and anything.

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    Be careful what you eat in the first stages of labour. You may throw up from the pain later on. I had to labour over the sink in the hospital bathroom. Orange jelly not as nice on the way up...
    You think I would have learned from this first labour. But no, second one had to have apple pie and cream. not good...

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    Default Labour and Birth - What you wish you had known then?

    I also wish I had more photos, I have barely any, it just wasn't on our minds and then I got whisked off to theatre for an emergency forceps delivery so didn't have a camera. Also should have been more assertive when I was telling the midwives something was wrong, they didn't listen to me for two hours but I ended up being right. I went with a MGP though and they were very anti intervention which Is actually what needed!

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    Sounds stupid but the process is important, not just the end result. I didn't figure this out til my third.

    Also don't let anyone talk you into pain relief if you feel you are coping.

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    Default Labour and Birth - What you wish you had known then?

    Quote Originally Posted by Annabella View Post
    Also don't let anyone talk you into pain relief if you feel you are coping.
    Yes, this. I was coping completely and the midwife told me I should have a peth shot because I was in for a really long labour and I needed to be able to rest between contractions. I really didn't feel like it would go for much longer (and I had only been at the birth centre for half an hour) !but she kept drilling into me how LONG it was going to take so I gave in and had it. DD was born 2.5 hours later...would've been 1.5 hours later if she had've believed that I needed to push instead of telling me I was being silly. Spent an hour doing everything I could NOT to push and when she finally "allowed" me to push DD flew out with a massive lump on her head from being stuck in the canal for too long.

    NOBODY knows what's happening inside your body but you and your baby. Trust your instincts and don't let anyone try to tell you you're wrong when you're sure you're right.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pru40 View Post
    I've been watching "One born every minute" on SBS as mental preparation.
    I was told by my midwife to watch saving babies as its closer to what really happens.... though i haven't seen it on telly since falling pregnant

    this is my first but some advice im planning on taking with me

    1. Labour is not "sick" pain it is healthy pain... sort of like going to the gym and the pain you feel after an intense work out.

    2. be assertive!! i know my body better then anyone else

    their the only two i can think of at the moment lol but am interested to see what advice others have to give


 

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