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    Default Almost 5 year olds behaviour starting to worry me

    OK, so I know there are MANY tiny meaningless things that children like to keep as "treasures" and that's fine. BUT - my daughter wants to keep everything and I mean everything.

    This Christmas was a nightmare! Every gift she received she had to keep the paper, yep, ripped xmas paper, every box, every ribbon, every bow.

    Other things she has to keep are yoghurt lids (usually toy story ones so I kind of get it!!), empty drink bottles (for eg, the very rare treat of a pop top at the shops the other day that hubby threw in the bin resulted in a LARGE never before had, public tanty) If she picks the sticker off an apple we have to keep it, when I pull a tag of a new dress she wants to keep it.

    It's doing my head in mainly because of her behaviour if I try to explain that it would normally go in the bin.

    Phase or just plain weird??? Your thoughts????

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    To me it sounds like it could be the beginning of hoarding tendencies, have you tried asking her why she wants to keep these things?

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    To be honest I would be concerned if it were my child. It could be the start of hoarding tendencies. I would talk to her about why she is doing it and may look into some counselling if things don't improve. Good luck.

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    Default Almost 5 year olds behaviour starting to worry me

    Was there a particular incident when she started this behavior or has she always done it? It could have been triggered by something( even as simple as someone taking her things at kindy)

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    Default Almost 5 year olds behaviour starting to worry me

    Sounds a bit extreme to me. I agree with talking at length with her about why she is doing it, how it makes her feel.

    Where is she keeping everything?
    Do you or her eventually throw these things away?
    How long has it been going on?
    Has she had an trauma in her life?

    My 7 year old likes to keep treasures, she likes to have collections, but what you have described is much more extreme behaviour.

    A GP could maybe point you in the right direction or her school teacher.

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    Default Almost 5 year olds behaviour starting to worry me

    My son did this sort of thing but he was much younger, items were bath plugs and reticulation fittings etc, he was later diagnosed with Asperges ( I don't want to alarm you!) his behaviour started much younger and there were other things as well, I would seek some advice xxxxxxx

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    If this were my dd i would be concerned too. When did your dd start doing this? How long does she keep these items for and where? My dd likes to keep certain things as well eg artworks, peels stickers off fruit then sticks them on high chair but she is ok with throwing things out after a couple of days. If your dd does get extremely upset i would seek advice from a professional. All the best, hope its just a phase.

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    Default Almost 5 year olds behaviour starting to worry me

    Sounds worrying. As pp mentioned has there been an incident that could have triggered this? Also if you remove something that she wants to keep without her knowing (when she's out of the house) will she notice something very small has been removed? I would be asking your GP for some advice.

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    Definitely take her to your GP. Definitely worth looking into, it's not normal behaviour for a 4yo or 5yo. Hope you can get some help to get the behaviour lessened - it sounds stressful for you & her.

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    Thanks everyone, I think I'll try to chat to the GP about it next time we're there.

    In all other aspects, she's a completely "normal" little girl. She's pretty smart for her age, has great communication skills and an excellent vocab. A very healthy happy little girl.

    I can't thik of anything that could have triggered this behaviour, she's always been good at sharing and started Kindy in 2012 and just recently finished. There have been no traumatic instances in her life at all. It's got me baffled.

    Usually we placate her by offering to put her things in a special place and then I just throw them out later. She doesn't really seem to notice so it's not an ongoing problem as such, but it is constant in her life. Like the other day a friend babysat and gave them (too many) freddos to bring home. We all sat down and had one and she sneakily grabbed the wrappers and put them in her top draw of her bedside table! I threw them all out a couple days later and there's no repercussion but........still makes me wonder.

    I need a pap smear (lucky me) so might as well make a longer appointment with the Doc to talk about it.

    Thanks for your advice


 

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