I need some additional opinions here.
I just had my 5th baby a week ago. So in addition to a 14 year old I have 4 under 5.
Dh and I also work full time our business from home. Our 4, 3 and 2 year olds go to daycare 4 - 5 days.
Anyway due to all this being very hectic I wanted to get an au pair to give some live in help. Dh then had the idea or getting his brother over from Fiji to help instead.
I was against this as he is an unknown without quals etc
And I didn't feel i would be comfortable asking him to do things.
So my preference was very much to get someone here already who had experience etc (and female). However due to never making up our minds basically we ended up getting his brother - we paid and organised for his visa and plane fares so out about a grand immediately.
I have never net the brother before and dh has met him twice though his sister knows him better (different mothers)
So he gets here a week ago and it's all very uncertain as clearly dh has not explained to him what he should be doing . Basically he has been doing a couple hours cleaning a day and a small amount of helping dh with the kids. I ended up with an emergency c- section and dh has a bad knee and not in the best health currently so has been struggling.
As far as I am concerned I think this is not working and we should get a professional as I just want to be sure the kids are looked after properly. I would like to take them out of daycare one more day a week and stagger the care that day with the nanny (I have to work too) and can't see it happening on this scenario.
Yesterday he asked if it was ok for him to go to a cousins and dh said yes. He said he wod be back this mornings but still hasn't returned.
This has been tough for dh as he is so tired he is falling asleep where he sits which isn't safe when in charge of children and I am obviously breastfeeding a newborn, a week out from c sec and tired myself.
I don't know whether we owe it to the brother to press on go the to make it work or whether its best to cut losses and interview and take on someone new, which will be awkward as we will need his room