I think maybe people expect too much from their other half these days.
They expect their husband or wife or partner to fulfil all of their needs; when in reality that's why we have friends and family and coworkers. No one person can be everything you need. It's too much.
I also think that too many people expect things to be great all the time and they keep thinking their is someone 'perfect' for them out there. No one is perfect or is going to match you in every way. I think that negotiation and settling sometimes is part of a relationship.
That said, my parents should have divorced years earlier, my dad was an abusive heavy drinker. And I think that there are times that divorce or separation is the only answer.
We are not married yet, not something that is overly important to us, but have been together over 6 years now.
I think it's hard to know what you want/don't want until you've experienced enough to have figured it out at least a little.
You might know that certain things would make you feel stabby... until you're dealing with it regularly. Or you might not realise just how important certain things are for you to have in a relationship until you're not getting those things. You might be okay to not have them/suffer through them for a couple of years... but eventually, you're going to realise that you need/hate those things, and make the necessary changes.
I don't think ending a relationship after 2 years is a bad thing. I think it's a better thing than wasting 20 years with someone you knew wasn't right for you after 2 years in, but didn't leave the relationship then. I think my parents would have been a lot happier if they had acknowledged this early on, rather than waiting until they'd been together over 20 years.
Also I agree that you shoudlnt stay in a relationship if its miserable for you that not fair on you but I have seen people get married then get bored and leave instead of figuring out ways not to be bored
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