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    Quote Originally Posted by Atropos View Post
    This isn't normal. Many years have passed, your DH has remarried and moved on. She has no right to try to get him back now. She should not be asking these questions or trying to destroy your marriage. My DHs exW asked him to get back with her three months after we started dating, after almost a year of separation. I told him I wasn't going to compete with the mother of his kids. He told me there was no need to as he'd told her in no uncertain terms there was zero hope. She did try one more time, after we'd moved in together. She was told to get stuffed!
    Basically the issue is not your DHs, it's his exW with the problem. He needs to tell her firmly what the boundaries are. She is behaving appallingly.
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    This. She needs to be told what the boundaries are, and it would be better coming from your DH

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    Sorry, I'm sorry. But if your husband is in fact still talking to his ex and feeling the need to lie about it, then there is a problem. If they were talking as buddies, co parenting, that would be ok. There'd be no need to lie. But he is lying about it. He has something to hide.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MermaidSister View Post
    Sorry, I'm sorry. But if your husband is in fact still talking to his ex and feeling the need to lie about it, then there is a problem. If they were talking as buddies, co parenting, that would be ok. There'd be no need to lie. But he is lying about it. He has something to hide.
    He hasn't been talking to his ex the whole 7 years of our relationship, just recently and he hasn't lied about the recent contact and he has been open about it. He hid it very early on in our relationship (2 months in) and I understood that being a new gf to a man who had children with this woman. We have moved on from that in the 7 years

    Thank you everyone!!

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    His ex is completely out of line!

    Your husband needs to make it very clear that any contact they have, is for and about the children ONLY. If she can't move forward and is going to talk to him like this then he needs to lay down some hard and fast rules.

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    Thanks Hokey Pokey, he has laid down the "rules" and now hardly contact at all --- including with the kids. It is either all or nothing with her and so frustrating!!

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    What a biach! Making her poor kids go without their father because of her own selfish ways

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nomorelies View Post
    Thanks Hokey Pokey, he has laid down the "rules" and now hardly contact at all --- including with the kids. It is either all or nothing with her and so frustrating!!

    Not good enough, have him tell her that she does not own the children and what she is doing is restricting access which is not ok.


 

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