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    Quote Originally Posted by River Song View Post
    I think that for some couples...this is totally true. But, now there is so much social pressure that the man MUST be present they get shamed into it.

    Like some women want an elective C section because they feel they cannot deal with vaginal birth...i think it should be equally valid for a man to not want to be present. However, I think that both parents should make themselves educated before making such a choice.

    If I had a trusted middy...i think I could have def had DS without FOB present...he did stress me out a bit and he went on for ages about how hard it was for him (sigh). DD was a bit different as DH was so keen to be there and when it ended in emergency C and us nearly losing DD...i could not have done it without his support.

    I just wish society could stop swinging extreme to extreme...why does it have to be "not allowed" or "must be"?
    I would think it's not about being shamed into it. Most fathers would appreciate being part of it as well as wanting to be supportive to their partners.

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    Default Men shouldn't be present at birth.

    The man is about 100 years old, his opinion is out of date on this one

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    I'd look down on a man if he didn't attend the birth of his children. I don't particularly want to push a watermelon out of my who-har but you know, don't really get a choice.

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    But...I need someone to yell/scream at! 'If you even think of coming near me again with that thing you've got another thing coming' just wouldn't sound right directed at the midwife.

    But...I get how in SOME situations/relationships it may be best for the man to be waiting outside.

    Both my labours were quick so I can't say having dp there slowed it down at all.

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    Quote Originally Posted by headoverfeet View Post
    This article is not just about men not being able to handle birth it's mainly about how their presence during the labour and the birth and how this can effect the mothers hormones.
    I haven't seen any evidence for this though - just speculation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by headoverfeet View Post
    One ob I actually totally agree with. I do believe the best place for a woman to give birth is alone in a dark quiet place or with just a very quiet unobtrusive midwife present. I can't see anyone here on bh agreeing in our culture of fear based birth though.
    Is this for real?

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    I kinda agree .. Some men shouldn't be present for it ..

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    Mmmmm.....I agree for some ppl it might be best ...I admit (and I've never admitted this as i felt there was something wrong with me) but I kinda wasn't looking forward to my dh being there with me....personally I knew I would have been ok without him....altho wouldn't want to deny him the experience either...but hard for me to say as I ended up with a c sect ....tbh I felt kinda weird with the idea of him seeing me pushing etc....but that's me..each to their own

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    Quote Originally Posted by headoverfeet View Post
    One ob I actually totally agree with. I do believe the best place for a woman to give birth is alone in a dark quiet place or with just a very quiet unobtrusive midwife present. I can't see anyone here on bh agreeing in our culture of fear based birth though.
    So people who want a different type of birth to you are only motivated by fear?

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    Default Re: Men shouldn't be present at birth.

    I think it's up to the woman birthing who will be at her birth.... I do agree that some Men hinder the process though

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