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    I would give her some recent research on the benefits of extended breast feeding. A lot of our parents generation were told that formula was better for their bubs. It may be a lack of understanding on her part.
    I'm still feeding my 14 month old and not planning to stop anytime soon.

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    These comments have started for us and DS is only 5 months. Thankfully they are from my childless friends as my mum bf for 2 years for each of us and probably could have gone longer.
    A friend of mine has actually told me that if you bf too long they dont develop their own immune system because they just live off yours. I judt smiled and said oh really I thought it was the opposite.

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    Quote Originally Posted by youmake3 View Post
    These comments have started for us and DS is only 5 months. Thankfully they are from my childless friends as my mum bf for 2 years for each of us and probably could have gone longer.
    A friend of mine has actually told me that if you bf too long they dont develop their own immune system because they just live off yours. I judt smiled and said oh really I thought it was the opposite.

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    Haha how silly. I suppose I can see how they get their wires crossed - we are taught getting a little cold etc "boosts" out immune system, but breastfeeding can be protective against getting sick so.... yeah..... but..... no. Lol.

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    I often say "sometime before he starts uni" My current plan is sometime after he turns 2 unless he decides to stop before hand. Since he is my 6th bub most people in my circle are used my extended breastfeeding.

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    My response has always been "till she's 25." This usually makes people laugh, because it's so stupid, and I think gives them the idea that we will stop eventually. Some people are very uncomfortable with breastfeeding an older baby who can walk, talk, has teeth and eats other food etc. My mother in law breastfed all her children until they were exactly 9 months, at which point she weaned them onto a cup of milk. Her aim was always to have her kids eating mostly solids and drinking from a cup by 12 months. Originally she tried to influence me that way but I think in time she saw that I was happy with the way we were doing things. DD is 18 months and still feeds a few times a day and over night. Now the only thing my mum and mother in law say is they wish they could have her overnight, to which I say, yep it would be nice, but she isn't ready yet, but they are free to take her in the day. There is also an amount of concern they have for me eg Am I getting enough sleep? Do I need some time to myself? Is it good for my marriage? A lot of it comes from the fact that people just simple don't understand, and I have to keep reassuring them that everything and everyone is fine, we are doing things our own way.
    I would have to agree with pp that for some people, seeing you continue to bf makes them feel that they failed if they didn't breastfeed. Although annoying, I dont think it comes from a place of nastyness usually. Sometimes they just can't understand that there are benefits to continued breastfeeding. Some people are judgemental twats, and there really isn't much you can do to shut them up.

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    Firstly congratulations on continuing your bf journey despite the challenges,battles,obstacles. It's amazing how many posts I can relate to. I put dd to the breast, gave her ebm and supplemented with formula. Our bf journey - putting her to the boob was short lived(a few months) but I persevered with ebm until the six month mark. Particularly when I was doing the trifecta I was under so much pressure to just go to ff. I. In Peoples eyes I'd "stuffed up already" but not exclusively bf so why bother! I was like a "bomb waiting to explode" any longer than 3 or 4 hours at a push between feeds and would land mysf in hospital with mastitis -needing iv antibiotics for 4 days! Even when id been "religious" with my regime I'd still land myself in emergency! dh ended up pressurizing ms in to giving up due to the toll it was taking on me both physically and emotionally. I'm proud At what I achieved but went through a "grieving process" and the end of our journey and all my associated feelings of failure.
    I applaud mums who make the sacrifice fir their children. And as a pp said-just distance yourself from those who are less than supportive.
    I know the aba has had some "bad rap" on the hub but I found the groups I went to nothing short of amazing even when I brought out the formula! I went to tgree duff local groups and I'd say 2/3 were amazing! One group were a "but to hardcore" for me- everything organic,no sposies, no plastic toys- only handmade! You get the idea! what I'm getting at is there is support out there no matter what,
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    I'm stunned by the opinions/comments people make.
    A mothers decision regarding bf or ff isn't a topic up for discussion

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    Yes I can empathise with her as we have discussed her trying to bf with us as kids and she has admitted that she failed. I know deep down she is proud of me but she just can't help herself and keep asking me.

    I know she also relates my bad sleeper to me bf as in her mind ff will make him sttn.

    I have tried all of the above responses and she keeps asking! I like the idea of giving her info on extended bf as she is misinformed but also feel like I am rubbing salt into the wound because she couldnt bf?

    If I don't nip this in the bud politely it will end up in a confrontation as we are both very headstrong people!

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    Can you tell her how it makes you feel?

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    My mum is the same as OP and it drives me mad. Just because she formula fed doesn't mean I should too.
    Her biggest issue is that she isn't able to babysit. I tell her that there is plenty of time in the future for looking after bub (he is only 10 months) but that doesn't appease her.


 

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