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    Ok I'm staying at my parents place for Christmas, my grandmother is here too. I am exclusively bf my boy despite the pain of nipple thrush, cellulitis and cracks. That's not the problem.

    I am so sick of the constant criticism - how I'm spoiling my 7 week old son, how if I'd just give him formula he'd be so much happier, how my milk is giving him an upset tummy (he had normal bf baby poo but as no-one here has bf they are sure it's diarrhoea and causing pain), how I should be training him to not want cuddles, how he should be sleeping thru the night etc. This is from my mother , grandmother and sil.

    I am tired - I don't get much sleep at night as I am on baby duty and getting a day time sleep here is impossible. Mum is also totally stressed as she always over does Christmas and this year is no exception - they'll be about 20 people for lunch plus the 7 staying here. I am really starting to hate Christmas.

    My poor DH is trying to help but he feels so out of place here - he's sleeping on the floor so bub and I can bed share. It's crowded. Mum means well (I hope) but she's all about keeping up appearances -constantly saying things like "it's always me who cleans up here, no-one helps" trying emotional blackmail while I'm bf-ing. I can't do cleaning and bf at the same time. My DH doesn't like to help mum cause whenever he tries she just takes the job off him declaring in a loud voice how he's doing it wrong or too slow (she does the same to my father - she's one of those people who can't be helped).

    So here I am ranting at 2am when I should be sleeping. I'm just too wound up. I want to go home. I am so not in a Christmas mood as I know it'll be another day of me not doing the right thing. The only thing I asked for Christmas was 1/2 to myself to do some knitting (my hobby) - boy did that get shot down in flames. Apparently I am the most selfish person for requesting that. Yet if I'd asked for an expensive gift that would be fine.

    Please tell me again how good bf is for my son. I need the reassurance in the face of so much negativity here.

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    they do sound annoying! Just ignore them as hard as it is. Dont doubt what your doing, your his mum, you know best! And pfft to spoiling a 7 week old! Bubs that age as still getting used to being outside mums tummy, of course they need lots of cuddles!

    Families can be so annoying! My nutbag step grandma is staying with us at my parents, everytime she talks I want to scream!

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    Enjoy every bf this christmas just focus on your little one and try and zone the rest out. It will be like breast feeding meditation

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    Thanks everyone
    Every year I say I'm not going to do this visit and every year I get blackmailed into it - often by DH. Tho after the criticism he's copped this year it nay be the last!!

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    Keep going, you are doing great under hard circumstances!

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    Aww mumma!! You are doing brilliantly and the absolute best for your little one. Mil sounds like a right pain in the ***, take no notice of her dribble. You are a beautiful, selfless mother, bubby is lucky to have you xxx

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    You are doing wonderfully. If it gets too much take bub to a park or playground with tea in a thermos and enjoy the peace.

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    Sending you luck for today. I hope they all settle or there is so much going on they don't even notice you breastfeeding anymore. It's hard when you don't have support so get all you need from here.

    You are absolutely doing the best thing for your baby!! Breastmilk is so much more easily digested and has so much good in it. Keep up the great work! It won't be long until you are home again

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    It's 9:30am and I've already been told repeatedly not to cuddle my crying baby because I'm spoiling him. The poor mite just wants a booby. Its been over two hours since his last small feed and I'm expected to ignore him - I'm not going to tho - can't wait to get home again on Thursday

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    OMG Op that is absolutely awful. Is it possible for you to just leave? I can't imagine what could make it worth while staying. To be criticising the connection between you and your new baby is just unacceptable and hurtful.

    I think you should leave, pick up some supplies on the way and have your own low key relaxed Christmas at home,


 

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