SIL1 (DH sister) knows DH been TTC more than a year now but I dont hav the heart to tell any of the ILs we are having trouble conceiving. She's got 2 kids, and when her 1st was born, SIL2 (DH's brother's wife) gave SIL1 bags and bags of hand me downs in good nick, most of them still tags on. SIL1 now wants to get rid of the baby clothes, she wont have any more kids. I am not one to not accept hand me downs - really appreciate their value, but I DO expect them to be decent standard. When I opened the bags, nearly ALL of them have drewl and spit stains, have pulled yarns, are discoloured, overworn, and pulled out of shape. I found 1 half good outfit in all the bags
What hurts me is that back in the day she got all the nice stuff of SIL2, now I am given crap. I could've known beforehand. She washes with homebrand detergent. And it sh**s me too that all the beautiful little dresses and other expensive outfits DH and I ever gifted her are not even in those bags. It almost feels like she's given the nicer stuff away to her friends and gave her own brother and me the crap. MIL now behaves like SIL1 has done us a world of favor and 'she is so generous'.
sorry just a rant I know DH's family cannot be trusted our counted on, never have been.