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    I need to get this out cause im so fricken hurt!
    Dp, DS and I went to my home town of ballarat to spend christmas with seeing everyone will be away and what not. I get there my sister didnt say hello to me or dp or ds I just brushed it of as nothing cause thats just her. I was out side playing with my nieces and nephews outside and my niece which is her daughter and she comes up to me and says
    k: can you keep a secret?
    me: of course I can what is it (tickle) come on tell me
    k: mummy says she hates you
    me: oh really why does she hate me? ( pretty shocked k isnt a big liar and she dont make up things like that she more oh there is a spider haha made you freakout)
    k: she says your a idiot and dont do anything!
    me: well its not nice to hate someone for that reason but you dont hate me do you?
    k: nope I love you (runs of playing chasey)
    I cant believe it im a idiot? my sister really thinks of me like this?
    I dont do anything?
    maybe she confused by the fact I looked after her 2 children while she was in hospital for over 4 months after a nasty car acciedent. I was 16 and hardly had a fricken clue how to look after 1 child let alone 2. do I really do nothing? yes I dont have a job but dp makes great money so I can stay home and raise ds. my house isnt always clean but it gets there eventually. she never cleans her place. carpet rotted from old washing maching broke 2 years ago.
    I just cant get over the fact my sister would think that of me. its so stupid I would never say that about her but for her to say it over me her own sister. im cut im hurt and she dont care!

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    I'd confront her. Whatever issues she may have with you for whatever inane reason, telling her daughter she hates you is really inappropriate.

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    Oh, hugs.

    How old is your niece? I'm assuming fairly young. I find it more disturbing that she openly told her child she hates you then the fact that she doesn't like you. A kid doesn't need to know that about her aunty!

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    That's horrible! Maybe you're sister is jealous of your life? Since I found out I was pregnant my sister has gotten really weird because I suspect she's jealous. perhaps discreetly mention to her that you feel she's acting hostile to you and ask what's wrong?

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    I would ask her what's wrong...

    I don't get along with sis in law for very good reasons, but with an actual sis you need to discuss/confront in the best way possible. Maybe your parents can help you or let u know if there's something else wrong with her making her feel this way that u don't know about ?

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    if I asked her whats wrong she would just say k is lying. k is 7 and she is always getting the blame for alot of things eg: she would look for something make a mess and then say oh k tidy up ur mess! meaning her mess.
    I told k before I left that im glad she loves me and not to let anyone try to make someone think badly of someone else and that I love her to.
    never would I say to ds ur aunty is useless and a idiot and I hate her.
    yes I can see it could be jealous but she should keep that to herself not tell family.
    im just shocked and hurt someone that is blood can be so mean with a few words

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    What if you don't mention that k said anything at all? I'm sorry your sister is being a meanie poo

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    Sounds like jealousy to me, she might be jealous that dp makes good money and your comfortable in life. It may not be that she in fact hates you personally but envy has taken over.

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    it sounds like something said in the heat of the moment or under duress...I would be so upset and hurt too though if my sister said that to my niece!

    Do you see her a lot? Do you get the chance to get together when things are not too busy?

    I would confront her....but gently and give her the chance to talk. Sort of a "i know things have not been great between us lately, but I miss you. Is there anything going on with you?"

    What she said was clearly not nice...and hopefully once the air has been cleared she can get herself together and apologise.

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    Im not the type to confront anyone cause I rather have my feelings hurt than have anyone elses feelings hurt. I do hardly see her as I live 2 and half hours away from her and my family. Its pretty hard to talk to her even if I email her she would prob ignore what I say even if I was standing in front of her. I can understand jealously seeing me and my other sister are in wonderful relationships with great men and have our own houses where as she is a single mum after he husband started sleeping around and a car accident that left her 49% disabled. I helped her through them all and same with my family but yet she always happy to see my sister and her children but me was more like a bad taste in her mouth.

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