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    For some people, co-sleeping is not an option that they want to explore.

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    The bit that gets me most is that they put a potty in his room so when he wakes at 5 he can stay there till 7.

    The rest is doing the best they can if seems (however misguided in my opinion) but if you just had sleep through the night can you not toilet your child at 5am?

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    I couldn't and wouldn't do it- it would break my heart to know my little one was howling on the other side of the door but I don't know what else these people tried so I can't judge. Can't say I like the way he gave his wife an ultimatum though

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    Default I locked our toddler in his room every night to save my marriage

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    I'm even more disgusted that other parents think this is okay. Seriously?! Why do people have children if they aren't prepared to face problems in a sensible and loving manner and in a way that will not damage your child.
    Yes, I'm quite shocked at most of the reactions here too!

    I have 5 children. I've been at breaking point many times during my 11 years of parenting, but if I ever got to the point of feeling the only option was outright traumatising my child, I would seek help.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hulahoop View Post
    The bit that gets me most is that they put a potty in his room so when he wakes at 5 he can stay there till 7.

    The rest is doing the best they can if seems (however misguided in my opinion) but if you just had sleep through the night can you not toilet your child at 5am?
    Yeh good point!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hulahoop View Post
    The bit that gets me most is that they put a potty in his room so when he wakes at 5 he can stay there till 7.

    The rest is doing the best they can if seems (however misguided in my opinion) but if you just had sleep through the night can you not toilet your child at 5am?
    I agree there.

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    I don't care what anyone thinks about me but I'll admit I have done this. When I was pregnant I was exhausted and had a toddler that would not lay down with me and rest so I felt I had no option other than to shut him in his room so that I could sleep. Me resting on the couch while he played was not an option because he wouldn't let me rest and I physically couldn't stay awake any longer.

    I don't like the fact that I did it but at the time it was my only option. The poor man must have been at breaking point to do that with his son. And remember his original agreement with his wife was a week - I'm guessing that he would have changed tactics if it wasn't working after this.

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    Default Re: I locked our toddler in his room every night to save my marriage

    I don't think it's disgusting. I wouldn't like to do it, not one bit, I would have to be completely desperate, out of options exhausted, at the end of my rope, breakdown point. I just know the impossibility of kids with bedtime fixations. He didn't sound one bit happy about it either. Everyone can shout cruelty and abuse but I would like to see him explain to his young adult child "yes your Mum & I split because YOU would.not.sleep". Imagine the impact that would have on a young adult.

    I have a child with a bedtime fixation, she won't get out of bed. 4 years + she's in a big bed & she's got out by herself less than a handful of times (3 times since last mothers day). Nothing I can do will persuade her, she can bust to wee, be sick, scared, begging for a cuddle, it doesn't matter, she won't get out of bed. I can imagine the brick wall that family faced with a child that wouldn't stay in bed.

    So yeah, desperation leads people to make tough choices. If anyone thinks they would do differently or bear more pain before cracking, good on them, I hope the theory us never tested.

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    Default I locked our toddler in his room every night to save my marriage

    I've been where this father is My 6 yr old DS wouldn't sleep at all unless it was with me and it drove me insane. At2 He would not sleep unil maybe 2-3 am everywhere with consistent routine he would get out of bed countless tomes a night screaming and throwing tantys escape his room climb over baby gate go down a flight of stairs and get into everything in the middle of the night I was single mum getting no sleep n no support I resorted to taking the handle off the inside of his bedroom door n letting him cry it out. Took 3 nights but finally he stayed in his room and slept mostly 3-4 hrs a time which was a god send. What prompted me to do this was one mornjng 4 am he escaped his bedroom down the flight of stairs let himself out the dead bolted back door with a chair and was in the unit complex car park. Thankfully my neighbor who was going to work grabbed him and came and woke me. It was for his own safety I removed the inside handle. I didn't lock him in though other occasions he had gotten out of his room middle of the night killed my fish. And pet rats and escaped into the back yard I fully get where this guy is coming from I just don't agree with the bolt lock.
    My DS was diagnosed with ADHD &ODD @ 4 and put on melatonin to help him sleep thankfully I now get sleep from him my DD 2 yrs old has a baby gate tightened so it can't be opened at her bedroom door with door open so as if she gets out of bed she can't get out of her room and hurt herself etc but lately she's screaming the house down unless I'm in her room with her 5-6 times a night resettling her back to sleep so now I feel like a zombie again hopefully she grows out of it she was a great sleeper and now she's killings with sleep depravation
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    Also why is it OK for a mother to be worn down and had enough fed up blah blah and giving her husband ultimatums. But when its a father who is worn down and trying to save his marriage, hes selfish and a b@stard? Im more disgusted by the judgement of this CLEARLY loving father, than the original article

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