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    Default Re: I locked our toddler in his room every night to save my marriage

    I don't think it was so bad. They weren't coping, it was affecting their relationship and health. And their son roaming through the house??? Yeah. He was probably safest locked in. Roaming the house, what if he played with the oven? Stuck things in power outlets? I wouldn't go out and leave dd home alone, so I wouldnt let her roam the house while I sleep!

    He bolted the door. Not dead locked. Or even locked. So anyone on the outside could easily slide the lock and quickly gain access if there was an emergency. I agree with what he said about fire fighters often struggle to locate children in a fire who leave their room, I've heard this several times before.


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    I actually have no judgement of this couple. Ive been to the point where one more night with no sleep and I was scared for what could happen. Every person has a breaking point every couple has another breaking point. It's not actually an uncommon occurrence which even though its not 'right' it doesnt make him a monster thats for sure. You go literally 3 years with no more than an hour or so sleep and see how you feel at the end of it.

    And its not as easy as 'getting help' you whinge about lack of sleep and people think you're over reacting and start regaling you of stories about how their little possums don't sleep, and in reality its nothing compared to what you're giong through.

    Dont judge unless youve been there


    And I dont agree that parents shouldnt put their marriage first sometimes.
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    Default I locked our toddler in his room every night to save my marriage

    I'm even more disgusted that other parents think this is okay. Seriously?! Why do people have children if they aren't prepared to face problems in a sensible and loving manner and in a way that will not damage your child.

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    Quote Originally Posted by London View Post
    Now go read the thread of shameful motherhood secrets......desperate times call for desperate measures and ALOT of parents do things they arent proud of. Everyone has a breaking point.
    Agreed. And the whole tone of the article was of embarrassment and desperation. He wasn't exactly proud and smug about his decision.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mama and her little bear View Post
    I was told (repeatedly) to do that too lol,
    20 months of shocking sleep,

    2 years til he regularly slept a significant amount of hours,

    It was hard, I was mentally and emotionally stuffed but I just soldiered on,

    Its what having kids is about.
    And thats good for you. Bravo.
    Not all parents are as strong as you apparently are.

    ETA: Im aware that sounds b!tchy and mean...its not meant to. Cant type tone. Genuinely, bravo and good on you for soldiering on BUT not everyone can do that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SugarplumMummy View Post
    I'm even more disgusted that other parents think this is okay. Seriously?! Why do people have children if they aren't prepared to face problems in a sensible and loving manner and in a way that will not damage your child.
    Because parenting isnt 24/7 sunshine and lollipops and anyone who pretends it is naive or a liar. and parents shouldnt be guilted into think they have to think its all wonderful and they have to treat everything with amazing patience and honeydrops all the time. This is the real world not pretend forum land

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    Default I locked our toddler in his room every night to save my marriage

    Quote Originally Posted by SugarplumMummy View Post
    I'm even more disgusted that other parents think this is okay. Seriously?! Why do people have children if they aren't prepared to face problems in a sensible and loving manner and in a way that will not damage your child.
    Yet I bet a good percentage of the mothers that are against this would be perfectly ok with smacking.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mama and her little bear View Post
    Yeah I was told to either control cry my son or stop whinging,

    It did not help me lol
    This was pretty much what I got told. By doctors. It didnt help my child or my mental health.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mama and her little bear View Post
    Oh I'm not strong, I admit it broke me, it left me a wr
    Go read the thread I was talking about. You are not alone there

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    Default I locked our toddler in his room every night to save my marriage

    There is no way my eldest child would ever cosleep with me. No way, not ever. Not even now at nearly 5 years old.


 

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