When mine was younger I suffered horrible sleep deprivation. Difference was, I didn't have a caring partner to help. Like delirium I am perplexed as to why he says his wife got up to him 37 times...why didn't they tag team? She does some nights, he does others? It sounds as though they both worked, and it sounds as though he was only concerned about himself - threatening to go to a hotel if she didn't agree to his decisions, no matter how extreme the decisions.
What worries me is that this could be deemed unlawful in some parts of the world. What else can we excuse under the guise of sleep deprivation?
I know sleep deprivation caused me to do some very strange things. One night I bashed my head against the bed because my son would wake within 5 minutes of putting him down. Even if I slept with him. I was exhausted. I put him in his cot, lay in my bed next to him while he cried, and I cried too. I had taken him to supposedly the best sleep doctor in the State, sleep schools, stayed with mum (who also ended up sheer exhausted helping me), ended up driving to get him to sleep, parking in the driveway and us both napping very uncomfortably in the car. When he was a toddler I put a safety gate in his doorway so he'd stop coming out, difference was he could see out and I would settle him if called.
so I know it drives parents to despair, I just don't agree that it should excuse people from everything. And I feel very sorry for his wife.