I really think the parents could have explored other options. There are two of them; it can be helpful to tag team these things, one gets an uninterrupted night's sleep to stay sane, the other comforts the toddler. Then vice versa the next night. No - it doesn't leave much time for a movie, dinner and wine together once kids are silently in bed - but a lot of the time as parents we seem to forget This Too Shall Pass. As Trish said, the kids move out and we're left with hubby alone for the rest of our lives! So much time in the future to have snuggles & dates and alone time. I just think while kids are under 5, their needs *are* put first (in terms of essential comfort and emotional security, NOT unreasonable demands) and the rest can come later. These are the building block years of their lives.
I agree with borntobe about tag teaming it. We have a 4yo and a 3mo. Our 4yo is too anxious to sleep alone, so we have to take one each, which means we're all sleeping ok. It's not optimal for our relationship, but our older son's mental health has to take priority. It won't be forever.
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The problem with using such a technique is that the parents aren't to know if their child is predisposed to some sort of anxiety disorder, and therefore may damage the mental health of their child.
It's sad to see a three year old have to build this confidence again. They shouldn't be scared like that.
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This is awful - what if he had woken up really ill with a raging fever or something during the night! This child is going to grow up with severe anxiety and insecurity issues!! How any parent can do this to their child is beyond me! I understand getting to the point of absolute exhaustion but I would've given in by co sleeping - it wouldn't last forever!! I just feel really sad for today little boy! There is a good reason why that dirt of behavior is illegal here. It is neglect!!
thats lazy parenting IMO, how heartless of them and also who leaves their kid in their room for 2 hours before you get your lazy but out of bed in the morning..
My background is also psychology, and and I heartily disagree that 3 hours of crying will inevitably traumatise a child for life. We are not talking about a persistent prolonged campaign by the parents. It may well be the case that the child doesn't recall and isn't affected by the experience. To say it will harm him for life is an overstatement, to say the very least.
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