Sorry guys he's just a selfish **** imo
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London - you are speaking everything I'm thinking.
Here's one for all you who think this man or these parents are monsters for what they did...
I WAS that child. My parents were these parents. I would get up and harass my parents 50-60 times a night. I would smash things in the kitchen. I would bang my head on a concrete floor repeatedly throwing tantrums for no apparent reason. They tried co-sleeping, I would pull at their hair, their eyelids, pinch their skin. They tried everything they could try. I was the last of 4 children and my brother and sisters (much older then me, yes, I was a pleasant surprise!) were heavily depressed because of my behavior. My Dad, who loves my Mum more than life itself, was so far beyond breaking point one night he literally felt like he was going to have a heart attack. He went for a drive to calm down and returned hours later. He installed a lock on my door the next day. Like this child, I screamed like I was being murdered for hours the first night but soon I was sleeping through the night most (not all) nights. I don't recall most of this, in fact what I do remember is how sad I made my parents. Mum would try and hide it but I do remember her crying quite a bit. I was 4 years old when they finally put a lock on the door to save my family. It did not affect me one bit and I am so extremely close to my parents and once I knew everything that had happened I was grateful for what they did. My father suffered severe stress from the way I behaved and the lack of sleep him, his wife and his other kids (including me) were experiencing and I tell you what, anyone who says what my parents did to me was disgusting and un-loving can go jump.
Have you been in these patents exact situation? NO! Then who are you to judge them?
The ultimatum he gave his wife, what, you prefer he ran off?? It seems to me this man loves his wife a lot and seriously had no other option. I agree too he is harshly judged being that he is a man, I see it so much that what is ok for a wife to do to a husband is not ok for a husband to do to a wife.
I'm so sick of reading all the judgmental posts in forums when people have no idea what the hell this really feels like.
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The example you gave sounds more like sounding out whether someone is right for you or not - DF & I had a similar discussion early on. I think it's all in the wording & interpretation.
*In my defense, I was young & insecure with trust issues and I was very lucky he didn't tell me to shove it for making him choose between us
Look, I felt a bit upset reading that. it doesn't fit with our parenting philosophy. But I don't think they are terrible parents or people. Just human beings beyond the point of no return that had to resort to desperate measures. Like I said, I'm farrrrrr from perfect, so I have a lot of empathy for them, and the child.
I'm just a strong willed choleric personality that won't take ultimatums
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