Maybe they tried cosleeping and they turned sideways, took up half the bed, then kicked them in the spines like my kids do.
Just because co sleeping works for you, doesnt mean it works for everyone.
I don't personally endorse this, but sometimes 3 traumatic nights make up for the sleep deprivation both parents and children were suffering from, not to mention the safety issues. So I dont judge them at all for making the right decision for their family.
**Mum, Dad, Big boy (Dec 08) and Baby girl (Feb 11)**
But it worked...
My DS doesn't co-sleep well either, except for day naps. However the article mentions they tried a lot of different things but not co-sleeping so I think that is why people are focussing on that as the alternative to locking him in his bedroom for 12 hours.
I would do this if I was in the same situation.
Its not what you'd want to do, but put it this way if you have 2 parents (or 1) who aren't in full control due to sleep deprivation- how safe is the child?
I hope that I'm never in this situation, but I have compassion for the parents who have.
I really struggled to bond with DD as a baby as she stayed up all night which meant I didn't sleep. And being woken so easily, it didn't matter what time of the day I tried to sleep, something always woke me up.
I think sleep is one of those areas of people's life that we little understand as we rarely see other people sleep, so we often don't understand how other people sleep well or don't sleep well.
Such a big deal out of something that has ended well for everyone involved. The family is happy as can be now and yet so many here are still judging on how they handled the situation.
So would it have been better for the family to give up, get divorced and for that child to have to grow up with one parent and seeing the other parent every other weekend? Would that have been a betetr solution for the family??
Please! The family was saved in three days! Does no one judging see that????
I don't find it very loving that he would just abandon them. The least he could have done was suggest that they would alternate nights at a hotel so they could BOTH recover a bit. Sounds like he didn't give a sh!t about his wife's exhaustion and distress, only his own.
From reading that article it doesn't sound like he was at the point of eating dirt either seeing as he had the cognitive ability to "start to make the decision" to threaten to leave his wife to go stay in a hotel if she didn't agree to bolting their son in his room. Doesn't really sound like he'd lost up and down. Or the ability to walk.... seeing as he was still going to work it doesn't sound like HE was experiencing your definition of true sleep deprivation either. Maybe he was just a wee bit tired.
Not saying I think he's a monster or a terrible person or unloving - sounds like they were going through something awful. But I know I haven't and wouldn't have resorted to that. And I don't need to justify how sleep deprived I have been in the past to prove that I can say that without doubt. Unless I was at the stage of eating dirt at which point I would hope I would not be the person responsible for making parenting choices at that stage.
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Last edited by Boobycino; 21-12-2012 at 09:23.
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