If someone said they were struggling to afford to provide for their first child, but they were currently TTC a second, wouldn't you say the same thing? Just because a child is from a previous relationship, shouldn't make it any different.
FTR OP I don't think the above ^^^ applies to you. You are a DINK (non-custodial) couple. I'm sure you'll be fine. Maybe you should see a financial advisor.
How does she expect you to oay for a change in lifestyle? She obviously got herself a good job and manages her budget accordingly.
I seem well off compared to ex because we manage our money well, we have a nicer house and much nicer cars. My ex and I at one point earned almost the same amount, and his partner earns better money than I do.
that doesn't mean his CS has anything to do with this lol, just that we save.
i was just saying to a friend I might put a pic of my nice expensive champagne my colleague bought me and say "thanks ex for the child support so I could buy this wine" lol.
my parents are also going overseas, they earn a low income combined
lol that would be priceless to see.
For example I previously earnt about 45 thousand, my ex earnt about 60.
Now my income is about 20 thousand so if my ex earns 60 thousand after a self support amount of 21 thousand comes off both our incomes it's only him with so called leftover income of approx 39 thousand.
Then his care percentage reduces his CS payable to about 140 per week. Now if my income goes back up to 45 & his stays the same at 60 my CS goes down to maybe 90 per week.
but seriously I do think something is wrong there crazyfamily, an income change like that with no reassessment seems incorrect.
If you call CSS they will tell you it doesn't matter how much the custodial parent makes it based of the payers income so the payee can make good money that won't drop the payers payments.
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