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    Thanks Calub!
    I can understand them not wanting to go C section straight away. I have had numerous (14) surgeries in my life and I think the ob is just concerned about more scarring and another major surgery.
    But we will see.

    Are you any further ahead in finding out what they can do for you?

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    Default Anal Sphincter Surgery after Third Degree Tear

    Wow that's a lot of operations! You are very brave after everything you've been through!! Ive just today booked in to get it operated on later in the month so fingers crossed it works and recovery isn't too uncomfortable. Update when you have the baby to let me know how it all goes.

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    Hi Cabub,
    I just wanted to let you know that I had a similar experience with baby #1. From then on, I agonized over the decision about how to deliver baby #2. I studied the scientific literature on this issue for such a long time, and was so sad at the thought that I might never be able to give birth naturally again. At the end of the day, the decision was up to me. The OB suggested that a c/s would be better, but he said that a VB was still possible (although risky) and it was up to me.

    Long story short, I decided to go with a c/section. It was a good choice for me. Baby #1 is now 3.5yrs old, baby #2 is 16 months old. I still have some symptoms 'down there' from giving birth to baby#1 (like not being able to hold in gas), so I just shudder to think of how bad it would be if baby #2 was also a vb. One study conducted on women with previous 3rd/4th degree tears found that even the act of pushing out a baby can do damage and cause continence problems, even if you DON'T tear that second time around.
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    DD1 born 5/11/2009
    DD2 born 2/2/2012

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    Hi Cubub,

    I saw your post and wanted to say hello

    First I'll tell you a little about me, when DD was born I had a 3rd (very nearly 4th) degree tear. This seemed to heal fine and I was told I could attempt a vb with my son. He was born in October (had the birth I always wanted) and ended up with a 2nd tear. All seemed to be healing fine but I found about 4 months ago things just were not 'right'. Spoke to my GP and finally got a referral to see a colorectal surgeon.

    I saw him last week and I've been advised that the repair which was done after my DD has broken down and I will need an anal sphincter reconstruction. I also have nerve damage to boot .

    I'm on the lookout for information too now. I'm getting a little confused by all of the options offered to me: anal sphincter repair (with or without implant), sacral nerve stimulation (should this before or after repair). So many questions to answer!

    I'd love to know how you are getting on. Have you had any surgery and if so how did it go and which options did you go for?

    Also if there is anyone else out there with info / personal experiences please share.
    Me 35 DH 36
    m/c @ 18 weeks 11/08/09
    DD (June 2010)
    DS (October 2012)

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    Hi, so sorry to hear you are in a similar position. I know what your going through! I did have the surgery to repair the sphincter. I had the option where they overlap the torn muscles and stitch back together. (Don't know your severity but my internal and external spincter was completely torn and sitting apart). The operation itself and the initial recovery I didn't completely prepare myself for. I figured it was similar to after birth where you bounce back relatively quickly, but in my experience I found it extremely uncomfortable and its very important to not do any lifting during the 6 weeks afterwards to avoid damaging the surgery. So if you go ahead with it, make sure you have help lined up for you and your kids. Ill happily provide more intimate details of the surgery and aftermath if you wish to pm me. Not sure all in cyberspace need to know about my butt lol. Afterwards you go through a Physio program of exercises for about 4-5 months. I have been doing these and its something you'll need to continually do to get strength in the muscle again. It's actually quite hard as with all the nerve damage its quite difficult to stimulate the muscle. I have had some improvement. But not a significant one yet - i probably can hold for about another minute or two. better than before but not sure everything i went through was worth it for the minimal improvement - yet.I am still in the Physio program though and I go back to see the surgeon in a few months. They did tell me (after! It was much more positive before it) that they are not sure how much more improvement I will get due to the nerve damage. I cannot have this surgery again in my situation as there is a limited amount of times this can be done. I have been told of the nerve stimulation one (kind of like a pace maker in your butt it was explained to me!) and other options you mentioned where you get an artificial spincter but in my experience Ive made the personal decision i won't be having anymore surgical interfering down there! Ill just keep trying to get strength in it now that it is atleast joined! Vb has been ruled out for future bubs as the risk of damage is too great. Just pushing can damage it. Even if I had no tearing. So if you do go ahead with surgery know that this is the safest option if you have more kids. If I can offer any advice. Don't expect miraculous improvement at first. It takes time! And yes it is uncomfortable! invest in a donut! (blow up circle cushion) Ill be happy to help you with any info you need. As mentioned just pm me If you like. I couldn't find anyone to talk to so was not prepared as well as I could. Best of luck with what you decide to do hope I've been of some help.

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    Hi Cabub,

    Thank you so much for your response. I'll PM you so we can chat more.

    Una
    Me 35 DH 36
    m/c @ 18 weeks 11/08/09
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    Hi Cabub,

    I've PM'ed you twice but my PC keeps crashing on me , ggrrrrrr! Let me know if you havn't recieved my message and I'll send it again
    Me 35 DH 36
    m/c @ 18 weeks 11/08/09
    DD (June 2010)
    DS (October 2012)


 

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