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    Hi all,

    I realise this is a public forum but I really feel the need to put down in words what I've been through over the past few days.

    I had an ectopic pregnancy in my left tube last year which resolved naturally without needing any surgical intervention.We were so happy when we found out that I was again pregnant just over a year after our loss.

    Imagine my distress when I noticed the tell-tale spotting last Thursday evening. To cut a long story short we rushed to casualty at RPA. After a long wait the gyno confirmed via an internal ultrasound and bloodwork that I was again carrying an ectopic pregnancy in my left tube. Even worse, it looked as though it was rupturing. I was taken in for an emergency salpingectomy (tube removal) which, of course, included removal of the baby. It was 'only' through laparoscopy which I guess I should be thankful for as the gyno had suspected that I would need the more invasive c-section type surgery due to the rupture.

    I stayed in hospital until Sunday morning and have been mooching around at home ever since. I just feel so empty and sad - most of all about losing yet another baby but, bizarrely, also about my lost tube . I'm also still pretty sore and was surprised this morning when I started having very intense cramps.

    I'm also stressed because I've had to call in sick for the week. I only started by job 2 months ago and I'm really nervous that the five days I've asked for off will seem over the top. But I feel really battered and torn at the moment, not to mention my charming habit of bursting into tears at least once an hour.

    In any event, more than anything I'm really feeling very sad about the fact that neither of my two pregnancies was even close of coming to term. My husband and I are simply longing to have a family but I'm starting to think it might be out of reach for us. Again, sorry for all the moaning but I'm just a bit overwhelmed by it all.

    I'd love to hear from others who have had a similar experience. What was your recovery time like? When did you feel 'normal' again? Sorry if this next question is too personal but - did you end up having a healthy pregnancy?
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    Default Ectopic pregnancy/salpingectomy - recovery and post op emotions

    I couldn't not reply, I have zero experience with what has happened to you and I'm very sorry for your loss & your troubles.

    However when it comes to work ( and I know it's easy for me to say ) try not to stress. Your health & well being is your number 1 priority right now. As long as you have a dr certificate you should be fine x

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    Quote Originally Posted by beckstar81 View Post
    Hi all,

    I realise this is a public forum but I really feel the need to put down in words what I've been through over the past few days.

    I had an ectopic pregnancy in my left tube last year which resolved itself naturally without needing any surgical intervention.We were so happy when we found out that I was again pregnant just over a year after our little loss.

    Imagine my distress when I noticed the tell-tale spotting last Thursday evening. To cut a long story short we rushed to casualty at RPA. After a long wait the gyno confirmed via an internal ultrasound and bloodwork that I was again carrying an ecoptic pregnancy in my left tube. Even worse, it looked as though it was rupturing. I was taken in for an emergency salpingectomy (tube removal) which, of course, included removal of the baby. It was 'only' through laparoscopy which I guess I should be thankful for as the gyno had suspected that I would need the more invasive c-section type surgery due to the rupture.

    I stayed in hospital until Sunday morning and have been mooching around at home ever since. I just feel so empty and sad - not just about losing yet another baby but about losing my tube. Probably sounds bizarre but I feel less feminine as a result. I'm also still pretty sore and was surprised this morning when I started having very intense cramps.

    I'm also stressed because I've had to call in sick for the week. I only started by job 2 months ago and I'm really nervous that the five days I've asked for off will seem over the top. But I feel really battered and torn at the moment, not to mention my charming habit of bursting into tears at least once an hour.

    In any event, more than anything I'm really feeling very sad about the fact that neither of my two pregnancies was even close of coming to term. My husband and I are simply longing to have a family but I'm starting to think it might be out of reach for us. Again, sorry for all the moaning but I'm just a bit overwhelmed by it all.

    I'd love to hear from others who have had a similar experience. What was your recovery time like? When did you feel 'normal' again? Sorry if this next question is too personal but - did you end up having a healthy pregnancy?
    Hey I think everything you're feeling is very normal, it's a very overwhelming experience to go through. I was very emotional after mine, and even though now it is 4 years ago, I still have times where I think about it and feel all those same feelings. My physical recovery was not to bad. I spent 2 nights in hospital and then the first day at home I pretty much stayed in bed and then after that I was ok. Bit sore and sorry for myself, but able to function ok. I think it took awhile to feel 'normal' though. It was a very much wanted and long awaited pregnancy, so to lose it so soon after finding out about it, was really tough on me.

    I did go on to have a successful pregnancy, and now have a 15 month old daughter. I always wonder what that other baby would have been like, how old it would be now, and how he/she would have fitted into our family, but then I have to realise that I wouldn't have my daughter if that baby had have stuck it out, so in the end, that's how I have to rationalise my feelings, that it all worked out for the best for the life I have now.

    You can conceive just as well with one tube as you can with two, so physically, there shouldnt be anything to prevent you going on to have future healthy pregnancies. I'll have my fingers crossed for you that you get that very soon In the meantime, take care of yourself and give yourself the time/space to deal with it all.

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    Thanks so much for sharing your story. I'm really glad to hear that you went on to have a healthy baby but of course you will always remember your lost little one.

    I wouldn't for one moment forgot the two babies I've lost. I lost both at around 6.5 weeks and each time I'd already built up a whole future. This time I was silly enough to buy a whole bunch of baby books including one on sleeping methods! I feel like I tempted fate somehow.

    Thanks so much again for your concern and for sharing your story with me. I am feeling less sore today and hopefully will continue to recharge.


 

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