+ Reply to Thread
Page 1 of 4 123 ... LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 40
  1. #1
    Join Date
    Mar 2012
    Location
    On the farm :-)
    Posts
    288
    Thanks
    286
    Thanked
    130
    Reviews
    1

    Default Few questions for single parents

    Just wanted to ask a few questions of the single parents of this forum following a few misconceptions in another thread.
    How often does your ex/s see the kids?
    What percentage of care do you have?
    Do you wish ex/s would see child/ren more often?
    Are there any circumstances that prevent ex/s from seeing children more often (such as DV, work etc)
    Who was main care provider prior to separation?
    Do you have family close by or do you rely on childcare?
    Do you work or study?
    If not, are there any barriers preventing you from doing so?
    Did you have career prior to having kids? And is it one that requires reskilling?
    Is your current career child friendly hours?

  2. #2
    Join Date
    Mar 2012
    Location
    On the farm :-)
    Posts
    288
    Thanks
    286
    Thanked
    130
    Reviews
    1

    Default Few questions for single parents

    How often does your ex/s see the kids? Every 5-6 months usually (6 times in 3 years)

    What percentage of care do you have? 100%

    Do you wish ex/s would see child/ren more often? I wish my child had a good dad who was more involved with him

    Are there any circumstances that prevent ex/s from seeing children more often (such as DV, work etc) DV, unwillingness to learn about child's disabilities, distance

    Who was main care provider prior to separation? Me

    Do you have family close by or do you rely on childcare? Family is close by but am unable to look after child due to child's needs. I rely on respite service now as my son will no longer be going to childcare centre.

    Do you work or study? Not currently. Completed course earlier in the year

    If not, are there any barriers preventing you from doing so? Child requires a lot of specialist and therapies atm. We are having several appointments a day. Lack of suitable care for child. He does not cope well in a main****** childcare centre

    Did you have career prior to having kids? And is it one that requires reskilling? Yes I have several qualifications behind me. I worked for over 10 years prior to having child. I will require some extra training to return as the technology has changed a lot in that time even though I have kept hand in

    Is your current career child friendly hours? No. Hours tend to be long and start very early. I have on many occasions during big jobs, been asked to work 6am-11pm

  3. The Following User Says Thank You to ItWasntMe For This Useful Post:

    Stiflers Mom  (17-12-2012)

  4. #3
    HugsBunny's Avatar
    HugsBunny is offline Once upon a time there was a bunny.........
    Join Date
    Oct 2008
    Posts
    6,603
    Thanks
    4,531
    Thanked
    1,966
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts

    Default Few questions for single parents

    XH sees the kids every second weekend and half of the school holidays (broken up in to two lots over the Christmas break). He sees them on other days provided he gives me enough notice to reschedule anything we have planned.

    I have 76% care

    No I don't wish he saw them more often tbh - his house is the 'party house' there is no bed time, they eat junk all the time and are pulled from pillar to post visiting his gf or other people - he won't just spend time with them by himself.

    The only thing preventing him from seeing them is distance - we love 1.5hours away from him.

    I was the main carer. He sees them more now than he did prior to my leaving.

    I moved to be near family after the separation as we lived in a town where i had no back up and lost my friends due to the separation.

    Do you work or study? Not at this point

    If not, are there any barriers preventing you from doing so? This year has been hell with court cases and moving back and forth, I decided I was going to chill this year and focus on making sure my kids were ok. I'll get a part time job and or study next year.

    Did you have career prior to having kids? No. I was a receptionist.

    I'm not currently working but I will be seeking a job that is part time (2-3 days per week) so that I can fit it around my oldest child's school hours with minimal after school care.

  5. #4
    Join Date
    Sep 2005
    Location
    Perth
    Posts
    8,544
    Thanks
    1,351
    Thanked
    2,307
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by ItWasntMe View Post
    Just wanted to ask a few questions of the single parents of this forum following a few misconceptions in another thread.
    How often does your ex/s see the kids?he doesn't ....
    What percentage of care do you have?100 percent
    Do you wish ex/s would see child/ren more often? I wish my child had a real father, yes.
    Are there any circumstances that prevent ex/s from seeing children more often (such as DV, work etc) no ,he just isn't interested .
    Who was main care provider prior to separation? We split before he was born .
    Do you have family close by or do you rely on childcare? A bit of both
    Do you work or study? I work four days a week.
    If not, are there any barriers preventing you from doing so? No
    Did you have career prior to having kids? And is it one that requires reskilling? I graduated from nursing when ds was a year old.
    Is your current career child friendly hours?
    yes

  6. #5
    Join Date
    Jan 2010
    Location
    Sydney
    Posts
    659
    Thanks
    241
    Thanked
    273
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts

    Default Few questions for single parents

    How often does your ex/s see the kids?
    Once or twice a week for a few hours.

    What percentage of care do you have?
    100%.

    Do you wish ex/s would see child/ren more often?
    Yes, for DS1's sake. He asks about his Dadda all the time.

    Are there any circumstances that prevent ex/s from seeing children more often (such as DV, work etc)?
    Not really. He works 6 days a week, but also only lives 5 minutes away.

    Who was main care provider prior to separation?
    Me.

    Do you have family close by or do you rely on childcare?
    N/A

    Do you work or study?
    Study.

    If not, are there any barriers preventing you from doing so?
    N/A

    Did you have career prior to having kids? And is it one that requires reskilling?
    I was in school.

    Is your current career child friendly hours?
    Study from home.

  7. #6
    Join Date
    Dec 2008
    Location
    the end of the rainbow
    Posts
    1,090
    Thanks
    40
    Thanked
    20
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by ItWasntMe View Post
    Just wanted to ask a few questions of the single parents of this forum following a few misconceptions in another thread.
    How often does your ex/s see the kids?
    What percentage of care do you have?
    Do you wish ex/s would see child/ren more often?
    Are there any circumstances that prevent ex/s from seeing children more often (such as DV, work etc)
    Who was main care provider prior to separation?
    Do you have family close by or do you rely on childcare?
    Do you work or study?
    If not, are there any barriers preventing you from doing so?
    Did you have career prior to having kids? And is it one that requires reskilling?
    Is your current career child friendly hours?
    every 2, sometimes 3 or 4 or 5 weeks for between 2 and 3 hours. His choice, they are made available whenever. And its at my place.

    I have 100%, not through courts or plans...just how its happened.

    I'm glad he doesn't come more often, though used to try to encourage it.

    No barriers, though he lives an hour away.

    Me.

    I have 2 sisters but both work full time. One sometimes babysits every few months. I rely on childcare.

    I work 2 part time jobs and study full time.

    I am reskilling as the job I was previously in was weekends and evenings (realestate)

    My new career will be much more child friendly, though still hard to work around.
    Last edited by UsThreeGirls; 17-12-2012 at 06:52.

  8. #7
    Join Date
    Feb 2008
    Location
    Brisbane
    Posts
    12,292
    Thanks
    1,571
    Thanked
    1,225
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    Awards:
    Past Moderator - Thank you
    Bubhub Blogger

    Default Re: Few questions for single parents

    How often does your ex/s see the kids?
    Every second weekend. Thursday night to Sunday afternoon

    What percentage of care do you have?
    80%

    Do you wish ex/s would see child/ren more often?
    Yes, but not as overnight. I want him to have more time to bond and connect with ds without removing his sense of stability. He's an empathetic child and very independent but also very attached. It's why i started out by moving into a flat on ex husbands commute home and have him a spare key.

    Are there any circumstances that prevent ex/s from seeing children more often (such as DV, work etc)
    Who was main care provider prior to separation?
    Nothing to stop, i was the main care giver

    Do you have family close by or do you rely on childcare?
    Childcare for 6 days a fortnight

    Do you work or study?
    Work 6 days a fortnight

    If not, are there any barriers preventing you from doing so?
    Did you have career prior to having kids? And is it one that requires reskilling?
    I have recently been made redundant, and if I'm unable to secure a new role in the company it's unlikely I'll get another job. It becomes a chicken and egg scenario with daycare and work. Coming from a office background in health insurance, there are many more flexible people, who would expect a lower wage than me. It wouldn't stop me applying, but so far in 12 months I've been unsuccessful within the company I've just spent 9 years in. The sane company that has rewarded me for my excellence, knowledge and customer service... How would the big bad outside world treat me?

    Is your current career child friendly?
    It could be if companies weren't micromanaging, and they didn't have do many choices for staff

  9. #8
    Join Date
    Oct 2010
    Posts
    2,129
    Thanks
    5,082
    Thanked
    1,220
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts

    Default Re: Few questions for single parents

    Quote Originally Posted by ItWasntMe View Post
    Just wanted to ask a few questions of the single parents of this forum following a few misconceptions in another thread.
    How often does your ex/s see the kids?
    What percentage of care do you have?
    Do you wish ex/s would see child/ren more often?
    Are there any circumstances that prevent ex/s from seeing children more often (such as DV, work etc)
    Who was main care provider prior to separation?
    Do you have family close by or do you rely on childcare?
    Do you work or study?
    If not, are there any barriers preventing you from doing so?
    Did you have career prior to having kids? And is it one that requires reskilling?
    Is your current career child friendly hours?
    Excellent thread, excellent questions. I won't answer due to privacy, but I hope you can dispell some of the ridiculous myths and assumptions. The other thread was very sad.

  10. The Following User Says Thank You to Stiflers Mom For This Useful Post:

    ItWasntMe  (17-12-2012)

  11. #9
    Join Date
    Jan 2008
    Posts
    8,245
    Thanks
    1,772
    Thanked
    2,017
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a weekBusiest Member of the Week - Most posts for the week ended 19/6/2014

    Default Re: Few questions for single parents

    How often does your ex/s see the kids? A few times a year.

    What percentage of care do you have? 100%

    Do you wish ex/s would see child/ren more often? No.

    Are there any circumstances that prevent ex/s from seeing children more often (such as DV, work etc)DV and distance.

    Who was main care provider prior to separation? I was.

    Do you have family close by or do you rely on childcare? No family- I use childcare.

    Do you work or study?
    If not, are there any barriers preventing you from doing so?

    Work and study.

    Did you have career prior to having kids? And is it one that requires reskilling? No career but always had jobs.

    Is your current career child friendly hours? My job has child friendly hours but securing those hours can be difficult.

    Sent from my GT-I9100 using BubHub
    Last edited by HarvestMoon; 17-12-2012 at 10:53.

  12. The Following User Says Thank You to HarvestMoon For This Useful Post:

    NurseAnni  (18-12-2012)

  13. #10
    Join Date
    Apr 2006
    Posts
    8,705
    Thanks
    581
    Thanked
    647
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    How often does your ex/s see the kids?
    Never
    What percentage of care do you have?
    100%
    Do you wish ex/s would see child/ren more often?
    Um, yes and No. In a perfect world- he'd take him to the park and be that doting Dad but in reality, I know it wouldn't be like that.
    Are there any circumstances that prevent ex/s from seeing children more often (such as DV, work etc)
    Um kind of. He was/is a drug addict and is not fit to be a father.
    Who was main care provider prior to separation?
    I left when I was pregnant so I've always been the main care provider
    Do you have family close by or do you rely on childcare?
    I have family and they help a lot, but mostly outside of daycare/school hours
    Do you work or study?
    I work and study
    Did you have career prior to having kids? And is it one that requires reskilling?
    Is your current career child friendly hours?

    I work in finance for government. My line of work will require constant but not too heavy reskilling. My workplace is very flexible but not great pay but it works well for us.


 

Similar Threads

  1. Single Parents - Questions and Responses
    By Amberlea in forum Single Parents
    Replies: 106
    Last Post: 17-09-2015, 16:20
  2. Replies: 11
    Last Post: 29-12-2012, 07:02
  3. Social group for single parents to meet other single parents
    By singledad2768 in forum Single Parents
    Replies: 2
    Last Post: 18-09-2012, 08:39

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Ro&Co
Share magical moments this Christmas with this gorgeous gingerbread house. Exclusively available in Brisbane, with FREE delivery in Brisbane Metro areas. Each Christmas Centrepiece is unique and made to order, from $240.
sales & new stuffsee all
Pea Pods
Buy 2 Award Winning Pea Pods Reusable One Size Nappies for only $38 (in your choice of colours) and receive a FREE roll of Bamboo Liners. Don't miss out, we don't usually have discounts on the nappies, so grab this special offer!
Special Offer! Save $12
featured supporter
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!