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    Default Who comes 'first' in your household?

    I just finished watching an episode of WifeSwap Australia where a SAHM swapped lives with a gym-junkie couple.

    The SAHM was quite distressed to see that the gym-junkies spent almost no time with their two teenage daughters; they spent all of their time together as a couple.

    In the end interview, the gym-junkie mother was confronted about the lack of time she spent with her kids and she said:

    "I put my husband first at all times and my kids fit in after that".

    I was shocked to hear it, mainly because it's not something I've heard anyone SAY before - usually it's "my kids come first".

    Would you be surprised if someone said this?

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    Wouldnt surprise me coming from a mother of TEENAGERS. I can see how after raising kids to that age that the mother and father would want to focus some time on their relationship. Teens can handle themselves (mostly)..sure they still need supervision and guidance etc. but in general I think a teen would be annoyed with overbearing clingy parents who wanted to spend every weekend doing 'family stuff'.

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    Depends on how old the kids were. Did they seem upset about the lack of family time?
    I watch wifeswap fairly often lol most families on there are definitely not parent of the year material

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    Default Who comes 'first' in your household?

    One of the girls was 19 and independent.

    I thought the other girl was 14 but she was 12 and seemed very upset that her parents had never spent much time with her.

    She got quite upset when her Mum returned and saw the rules up on the wall. One of them was 'We spend time together as a family'. The mother said "well that rule won't be staying!" and tore it down.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Here Kitty View Post
    I just finished watching an episode of WifeSwap Australia where a SAHM swapped lives with a gym-junkie couple.

    The SAHM was quite distressed to see that the gym-junkies spent almost no time with their two teenage daughters; they spent all of their time together as a couple.

    In the end interview, the gym-junkie mother was confronted about the lack of time she spent with her kids and she said:

    "I put my husband first at all times and my kids fit in after that".

    I was shocked to hear it, mainly because it's not something I've heard anyone SAY before - usually it's "my kids come first".

    Would you be surprised if someone said this?
    I watched that today as well ... My god that overweight mother was a total idiot !!!! Her poor kids.. They will never know what healthy living is!! Poor lids will be on constant fear of strangers as well!!
    I don't think anyone comes first for us.. Of course being that our girl is only almost 4 .. She tends to be the one who comes first ..for now....

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    Default Who comes 'first' in your household?

    That's an old episode, I have to say I was really surprised when I saw it.
    The kids definitely come first in our house but it doesn't mean that DF and I are put out by it.

    Even as teenagers myself and other siblings loved doing things as a family and I'll continue to do the same with our girls.

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    Yes I saw that as well. However I think the overall out come of the episode was quite positive for both families and note how there was no screaming at each other at the final meeting? I thought that was great! They both had their eyes opened more than at the start

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    The girls come first absolutely.

    The older teenager is different I guess. But DD#1 is 13.5yrs and we always spend time together. Sometimes its mainly about them and their after school activities but we also try to do family things too like go out for the day etc. DH gets home quite late so they dont get to see much of him on weekdays so we really like some family time even if we aren't going anywhere.

    It becomes a bit of a balance I think where they need time with their friends but also time with us.

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    My children come first, absolutely always.

    My husband and i agree on this, so we do not feel as though our relationship is lacking or missing out. We are two grown adults, the children rely and depend on us and are the light of our lives, how could they not come first? Perhaps when they are grown it will seem more evenly balanced?

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    Whoevers needs are most paramount at a certain point in time come first. We are certainly a child oriented household with a 4.5yr old and a 2.5yr old and another on the way but that doesn't mean everything is about them. I have my me time, as does my husband and we spend time together as a couple as well, It's about balance

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