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    Default Little girl permanently removed from her good single mother :(

    Probably because now the father is out of the picture they weren't getting much contact so decided to go for custody

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    Considering the people mentioned in the article that have been included in the care of the child indicates that there would be a lot more going on here and the mother wasn't given custody for good reason. I'm sure the mother loves her child dearly but that doesn't mean she is necessarily adequate to care for the child.

    An intellectual disability even a mild one can run deeper than simply having a low iq. My bil has a mild intellectual disability and there are many things he isn't capable of never minding caring for a child.

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    The article clearly states that there was no problem with her parenting, just that the elderly relatives were 'better'. This woman does not seem to have had the support or ability to mount an adequate defense againts people who intended to take her child and were more advantaged in the court system than she. This seems to me not only an injustice to the child, but a dangerous precedent. She retains weekend visits, so is not in any way a danger to her child.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SPC View Post
    The article clearly states that there was no problem with her parenting, just that the elderly relatives were 'better'. This woman does not seem to have had the support or ability to mount an adequate defense againts people who intended to take her child and were more advantaged in the court system than she. This seems to me not only an injustice to the child, but a dangerous precedent. She retains weekend visits, so is not in any way a danger to her child.
    I agree with this - I do however think the article is very vague on detail of this case and so I feel a bit torn between a rock and a hard place.... For example, how dies the law reconcile 'mild intellectual disability' with the fact there was no problem with her parenting?

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    Victoria's Public Advocate, who is familiar with the details of the case, is not happy either:

    "THE recent removal of a child from a young mother with a disability, reported in today's Saturday Age, is heart-wrenching and disturbing and leaves me and those involved in the case in emotional turmoil. Goodness knows, then, how the poor mother, ''Rebecca'', is coping, let alone her child.

    It appears, however, that the removal of children from parents with a disability, basically because they have a disability, may be not so uncommon."


    Read more: http://www.theage.com.au/opinion/pol...#ixzz2F6zdTmpa

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    Default Little girl permanently removed from her good single mother :(

    Wasn't there a movie with Sean penn where he had an intellectual disability and was a single parent. When his daughter reached a certain age he gave custody to a foster mum as he thought it was in his child's best interests.
    "I am Sam"

    http://m.imdb.com/title/tt0277027/

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    Default Little girl permanently removed from her good single mother :(

    From what I read the mothers legal advocate did not fight for her to retain custody but agreed for her to give it up.

    The other party may have had money to employ lawyers etc.

    Children are taken from their parents without cause all the time.

    I think people find it less painful to believe there must be some good reason we don't know about than to acknowledge injustice - especially when to do so can involve feeling a sense of obligation to do something about it.

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    Default Little girl permanently removed from her good single mother :(

    Quote Originally Posted by crankyoldcow View Post
    I found reading this article particularly distressing.

    I do wonder if there is more to the story, but I wouldn't be surprised if there wasn't. It just goes to show how vulnerable some members of society are.

    I've just googled "mild intellectual disablity" and it seems that this means people with an IQ of 70 -75.
    It's actually an IQ of less than 70

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    Quote Originally Posted by MinnieMouse81 View Post
    It's actually an IQ of less than 70
    In nsw, it is 75. To get into an IM class, your iq needs to be lower than 75.

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    Default Little girl permanently removed from her good single mother :(

    It's a heartbreaking situation and I feel for the poor mother who may not even understand the why/how.

    But I do think there must be more to it though too. The carers are described as 'elderly' - surely our system wouldn't willingly remove a child from a perfectly capable mother, only to hand her over to people that could die any day if they are that old??

    If our system is really that screwed up then our country is in trouble.


 

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