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    Quote Originally Posted by FirstTimeMummy2012 View Post
    Sorry but I don't believe that statement. My DH respects me very much but has stated his case about p o r n. He's a very visual man and loves to see the female body. He begs me to show more of myself to him but I'm not confident with my body so I feel it's unfair to completely deprive him. Granted if he watched absolute filth I wouldn't be happy but I've seen what he watches and it's just not a big deal .. to me that is.
    I'm genuinely surprised at your stance on this given your stance on men and the use of prostitutes. Not having a go just surprised.
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    Quote Originally Posted by FirstTimeMummy2012 View Post
    Sorry but I don't believe that statement. My DH respects me very much but has stated his case about p o r n. He's a very visual man and loves to see the female body. He begs me to show more of myself to him but I'm not confident with my body so I feel it's unfair to completely deprive him. Granted if he watched absolute filth I wouldn't be happy but I've seen what he watches and it's just not a big deal .. to me that is.
    Thank you. Someone who agrees with me!!

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    Default relationship issues - 30 weeks preg

    Quote Originally Posted by faroutbrusselsprout View Post
    This is just completely and utterly untrue.
    What a load of rubbish.
    I can't believe all the excuses in this thread "they're just men" "cut them some slack"!!!

    OP if you're uncomfortable with your partner watching p o r n then you need to have a very serious discussion with him.
    You have every right to not want your husband looking at other woman naked/performing sexual acts.
    Your feelings of your own self worth should come before his visual aids for jerking off.
    Totally agree. I hate men being generalized like this. It's like saying "all women nag, they can't help it" - its not true! My DH doesn't watch p o r n, and I'm not saying that because I'm naive and don't know what he really gets up to. If you're uncomfortable with it he shouldn't be doing it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by babyla View Post
    I'm genuinely surprised at your stance on this given your stance on men and the use of prostitutes. Not having a go just surprised.
    What's there to be surprised about?

    Watching p o r n on your own is one thing and having sex with prostitutes (which then becomes cheating) is a completely different thing all together. It's like comparing apples and rockmelons
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    Quote Originally Posted by Alicia92 View Post
    Thank you firsttimemummy! My point exactly. I have not met a guy who doesn't like p o r n. Thank you... finally someone who agrees with me!!

    Don't take it personally. Doesn't mean he loves you anyless if he watches it.
    Let them be :-)

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    Them I suppose you've never met a guy who actually understands the nature of the p o r n industry. It's not just about whether a guy liked to see naked chicks; some men aren't interested in watching what amounts to subjugation and exploitation. Further, some men aren't hypocrites; any man who wouldn't allow his daughter into the industry but would happily watch another man's daughter might do well to question himself.

    Don't take it personally? I can't imagine anything more personal!
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    Default Re: relationship issues - 30 weeks preg

    Quote Originally Posted by FirstTimeMummy2012 View Post
    What's there to be surprised about?

    Watching porn on your own is one thing and having sex with prostitutes (which then becomes cheating) is a completely different thing all together. It's like comparing apples and rockmelons
    But the line is different to everyone - someone may feel that their partner/husband watching p o r n IS cheating? And that's ok, that's their own view on it... I think that's the point that FOBS and others are trying to make... that whilst some women are ok worth their husband/partner watching p o r n, others aren't, and that all women shouldn't have to put up with it because people say That all men do it... because the truth is, all men dont watch it. A lot do. But all don't.

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    Default relationship issues - 30 weeks preg

    Would you think your partner was cheating if he was accepting and enjoying p*rnographic photos from someone he knew IRL?

    What about someone he knew online?

    What about someone who was selling those photos to many men?

    Very blurry lines here.
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    Quote Originally Posted by FirstTimeMummy2012 View Post
    What's there to be surprised about?

    Watching p o r n on your own is one thing and having sex with prostitutes (which then becomes cheating) is a completely different thing all together. It's like comparing apples and rockmelons
    I just look at it differently that's all. Both are about the exploitation of women.
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    Quote Originally Posted by peanutmonkey View Post
    But the line is different to everyone - someone may feel that their partner/husband watching p o r n IS cheating? And that's ok, that's their own view on it... I think that's the point that FOBS and others are trying to make... that whilst some women are ok worth their husband/partner watching p o r n, others aren't, and that all women shouldn't have to put up with it because people say That all men do it... because the truth is, all men dont watch it. A lot do. But all don't.

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    Exactly.
    To dismiss the OP's feelings by saying she should just "let him be" is incredibly insulting and actually quite damaging.
    The OP has every.right to feel what she is feeling and should be offered advice on said feelings.
    Not to just "get over it".
    The whole man=p o r n thing absolute infuriates me.
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    I dont agree for the fact that i am willing and want our sexy life to be great even when i am 30 weeks preg!! I dont deprive him off sex,i just dont want to offer it everyday coz his watching p o r n EVERYDAY! Not every now an then when im not up for it. I still give great oral to him an he repays me by watching p o r n every chance he gets....i think some ppl that think its fine dont get what im saying.but alot do an thankyou for being understanding because it is a daley thing that he does.and thanks faroutbrussellsprout lol ya know what im sayin xxx
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