Tbh- everyone is entitled to their opinion, and people have boundaries that they don't wont their partners to cross and that is fine, if it works for them then who are we to judge.
The OP put this up as relationship issues as I'm sure she wanted someone to give her advice. Now I know it if very hard to give advice without giving your own life story and opinions but I really feel like this was a very sensitive matter, and those ladies who don't have an issue with it to say it just men being men perhaps should have started a different thread about " I don't mind what my partner looks at on the Internet" for those ladies who actually saw the post and wanted to reach out and offer constructive advice like " talk to him" or tried to provide empathy then I think you understood what the OP was needing. To go back and forth about my husband doesn't look at it, my husband does and I don't care. Really isn't helping someone who is in a time of crisis.
I have read through all these pages and started at I know mine doesn't watch it to maybe he does because they say all men do to why the heck would I not believe my DH because some ladies on the Internet said they all do. Wether yours does or doesn't or mine does or doesn't, does not make what the OP is going through better.
I'm sure I won't be liked very much for writing this but sometimes we are so quick to defend our lives and our choices we miss what is really being asked.
To OP I hope you have unsubscribed your own thread as I'm sure the later parts have not been helpful, but if your still hear if its not ok with then you need to let him know, if compromise is what you would to do then do that, if you would like him to go and see someone then you ask him to that. Only you know what you can handle in a relationship and it wouldn't be fair on you if you felt undesirable all the time.
I suggest we stick a fork in this thread because I think it's done. If people want to debate wether or not they are fine with their other half doing who knows what why not start a new thread anyways that's just my opinion we are all entitled to one...
I've found that most people who defend the use of p0rnography do so by ignoring logic; they accept certain fallacies in order to justify their position. I'm interested in pointing this out, because I think everyone should examine their beliefs and motives here.
However this goes well beyond the point of the thread, and I don't wish to derail it any further for the OP. So cheers from me
OP Im sorry you are feeling the way you said you are I think its normal to feel a bit unsexy in pregnancy and the surge of hormones and rollercoaster emotions certainly dont help any situation.
My DP has looked at online stuff since before I met him and still does now that I am pregnant. It doesnt bother me in the slightest, but thats not to say that this is a blanket 'its fine' for everyone. Sounds to me like you and your DP need to have a proper chat about how it makes you feel and how looking at it makes him feel. Your feelings about it are important but his are also. I hope everything turns out for the best
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