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    Default relationship issues - 30 weeks preg

    Hi i dont really know who to talk to about this but i guess ill start here lol. Me and my husband are expecting our first lil boy in about 10 weeks an we are both excited but a few weeks ago my husband left his phone at home and i didnt notice till i text him and heard his phone in the bedroom so stupid me picked up his phone and he had a download complete in the notification bar..to my horror it was a p o r n movie of girls gettin a n a l with sq ui rt ing involved an i continued looking an he has many dif videos.i was feeling hurt and confused about why he would look at this everyday.and i mean everyday and has been since..i confronted him with it when he got home an he said he felt bad about me finding out and its not a new thing.so he has a p o r n addiction i think and i dont want it to change the way i feel about his so i told him how it makes me feel.worthless an not sexy an he says i am but i dont feel that way anymore.i dont want to be thinking about him looking at it all the time and i dont know what to do or say anymore.and now when we do have sex i think about if he is thinking about some other sexy chicks *** and body.i know he loves me but....its hardto believe it
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    My partner is the same but he is open about it. Don't feel bad I think all guys love p o r n. It's just them.
    Since having my baby 4 months ago it's sorta a good thing he can pleasure himself because I'm not up for sex at all! I use to love it but now it just feels uncomfortable and I'd rather just sleep! And he doesn't pressure me or anything. I'd rather him to just have a pull before I get to bed lol

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    My hubby watches p o r n and it's a n a l. I told him it made me feel crappy and felt I was attractive enough and wasn't giving him what he obviously wants (a n a l) I did tell him that watching a n a l p o r n was as close as he would get to it lol!! His best response was "I don't jerk off to it, I just watch it" my reply?? "Suuuure you do, you think I was born yesterday??"
    I hate him watching it, makes me feel terrible. On the positive, he hasn't been on those sites since I confronted him. Unsure what the fascination with it is? I don't really think the actors are really enjoying themselves while doing "it"

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    I was pregnant too when I found pretty vulgar stuff on my DHs phone. I didn't handle it well at all (DH ended up getting a new phone, lets put it that way) and told him how repulsive that made me feel. I honestly think it was the content he was looking at that p-ssed me off.

    Now days he looks at 'regular p-rn' (for lack of a better description) which is fine, it doesn't annoy me and I guess its for the greater good because I'm certainly not up for any bedroom antics. I've told him in no uncertain terms if I catch watching 'girl humps wilderbeest' (or something else like that, its just an example) I'll be so inclined as to remove a part of him - no prizes for guessing what.

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    Default relationship issues - 30 weeks preg

    I know it can make you feel really crappy from first hand experience but when my DP was doing the same when I was preg I asked why rather than getting grumpy about he he said it was because he wasn't getting enough sex affection or attention cause everything was focused on me n baby n our well being n I was always tired n grumpy n didn't want to be touched and he felt left out n rejected so he would watch p o r n n get his satisfaction from it Maybe is your partner feeling the same ??
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    I don't think men are naturally vulgar perverts who need to watch things like hardcore p o r n to get off... Fact is, when their women are pregnant they often feel left out or rejected or even afraid to touch us.
    Internet p o r n is a slippery slope... First it's a girly pillow fight, then maybe some straight sex in a new position, then it's multiple players, then it's previously unexplored 'territory', and then wildebeests, lol.
    You don't have to be happy about what your partner is doing, but you need to try and think about it with a male brain, which probably says 'my beautiful wife looks so tired and uncomfortable, I really don't want to bother her with my needs again, guess I will watch some p o r n and get off and then I'll be ok'
    Cut them some slack. They aren't doing it to hurt you and I would be incredibly surprised to find that they even thought about anything they'd seen on the Internet while actually having real life sex.
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    Mine was doing it before I fell pregnant, once he even knocked back sex with me and relieved himself with his p o r n. That's what I mainly got peeved about

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    Makes ya feel like ya not good enough an its the not pleasuring me bit that bothers me.and the fact that he does it in the toilet!!!and will lie if i confront him with it by saying "na iv been good recently" and i know for a fact he watched it 8hrs ago coz phone search history doesnt lie lol...and also we had a great sex life before i got preg an i know he feels like he might hurt the baby and he says i taste different now! And thats being very honest i think. but he cant be honest about watchin p o r n!!!!..i still have a highish sex drive "atleast three times a week" an doesnt touch me that often or instergate anything unless im laying naked lol.
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    Default relationship issues - 30 weeks preg

    Quote Originally Posted by Alicia92 View Post
    Don't feel bad I think all guys love p o r n. It's just them.
    This is just completely and utterly untrue.
    What a load of rubbish.
    I can't believe all the excuses in this thread "they're just men" "cut them some slack"!!!
    My good god.

    OP if you're uncomfortable with your partner watching p o r n then you need to have a very serious discussion with him.
    You have every right to not want your husband looking at other woman naked/performing sexual acts.
    Your feelings of your own self worth should come before his visual aids for jerking off.
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    Default Re: relationship issues - 30 weeks preg

    Quote Originally Posted by faroutbrusselsprout View Post
    This is just completely and utterly untrue.
    What a load of rubbish.
    I can't believe all the excuses in this thread "they're just men" "cut them some slack"!!!
    My good god.

    OP if you're uncomfortable with your partner watching p o r n then you need to have a very serious discussion with him.
    You have every right to not want your husband looking at other woman naked/performing sexual acts.
    Your feelings of your own self worth should come before his visual aids for jerking off.
    All of this

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