Just like to point out, that working as a single mother is so much harder than working when single. It really is. Working when partnered you can have your partner pick up children if you need to work late, do half the day care runs, help with housework, take turns staying home when kids are sick etc.
It's a stupid Idea because if means the woman is an unpaid babysitter who will never be able to get a job herself.
Taking care of children while they are asleep is not 50 / 50.
As to single mum demanding school hours - what do you expect them to do? after school care is expensive and is the thing that tips single mums over the edge. I find it strange some SM's here go on that the hundred or 2 their husband pays in CS per fortnight is this huge amount yet scoff at double or quadruple that, that she has to pay for care Even stranger is these women who are at home say it's not worth it to work bc of all the costs 9and I hear that 100%) so it's ok for them to stay home yet the bio mum is expected to work min wage paying 80% of her wages in care but oh well be a grown up and suck it up...
In reality 50/50 care can work, but not for everyone. I have a 7 yo old DS who I have 50/50 care of with his father. It is working well now, but it has taken a lot of work to get to this point and will continue to take a lot of work, just as parenting does when the parents are together. There are some different rules, but the important ones are pretty much the same. Again, even when the parents are together, their rules and how they enforce them won't always be the same. Also, children can adapt to having slightly different rules and routines, think about when they go to school, or a friends place, or to their grandparents. For DS, we both have clothes, toys, school uniforms, lunch boxes etc, so there is nothing for day to day living that he needs being sent back and forth, only special things that he wants to take with him. It is much easier and more stable this way.
XP doesn't work whereas I work and study. Someone has brought up about CS. I actually have to pay XP CS. Every situation is different. I do get annoyed about having to pay. The reason is, we both have the same opportunity to work, etc, and I earn a measly part time wage while I study to provide a better future for myself and my family. He lives with his parents, while myself and my new partner have a mortgage and are about to start our family.
50/50 may not work for everyone. For now, it is working for us. In the future this may change, as the child's needs change. First and foremost, we need to remember what is best for THE CHILD. And put THE CHILD'S needs first. It doesn't matter if the parents are together or split, or what care arrangements they have. We have to remember to take a step back from our own wants, needs and interests and really try to see through their eyes. Listen to what they have to say, without getting upset by it (at least in front of them). They need to be able to trust that you will listen to what they say, and provide a reasonable response to guide them.
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