Funnily enough, one of my friends is a male and has a DS the same age as mine. He has full custody. The boy's mother sees him a few times a month supervised. The reason he has full custody is because he did the majority care anyway, because his ex is unwell with mental health and drug issues. He did all of the dropping off to school, packing lunches, bathing at the end of the day, ensuring he had dinner and went to bed at a reasonable hour. The court has basically said the boy's mum will never have custody. I support him.
It's not just about physical care. It's things like immunisations, swimming lessons, speech therapists, knowing what food they like and is good for them, etc etc... All those things that are in 'mum' domain very often.
Personally... I think that the fact that the majority of childcare falls on women often disadvantages them particularly economically, but also emotionally (never getting a break, emotional exhaustion etc). I think it would be great if things were more even especially after the earliest years of a child's life.
I feel that as things now stand women are typically responsible for both day to day care and organisation of a child's life and is unfair to deny that in the case of a relationship breakdown.
She moves around a fair bit, the original agreement was she moved back this way when the kids go to school but they're at school now so it won't happen.
To be clear she's a bad example, I've not come across another mother like her. From what I've seen on here there are ALOT of mothers who want what's best for their kids, I'm merely making the point that society in general believes kids should be with their MOTHER regardless & that this belief can & is to the detriment of plenty of children.
In plenty of split families 50/50 care could & would be a benefit to the children
Last edited by delirium; 16-12-2012 at 11:06.
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