Speaking as a child of the 50/50 custody - it sucks!!!
I spent one week at mums and the next at dads. Neither was home. I also never unpacked my bag, because who wants to pack, unpack, and then re-pack and re-unpack a bag every week. Which used to annoy the crap out of my dad, because he would be like, this is your home why aren't you unpacked?
I used to leave things at one house like my school jumper, or homework, and then is get in trouble for not having it at the other house. It was just very much my life flipped upside down every week.
Luckily it wasn't my entire childhood. It was probably from age 7 to 10 and then age 11 to 12. Because my mum moved at age 10 and we went with her, and then dad moved closer and then eventually away from us.
It was such a horrible thing, that if I had to go through it during the HSC I probably would have picked one and not seen the other as much.
It's hard on the kids, but sometimes parents don't see that. They just want them to spend an equal amount of time with each parent, they don't see the disruption it causes.
Yes and now that I'm thinking about it....thinking back to when my ex suggested it I was more thinking in terms of him sleeping in my bed with the woman who broke up our family *shudders* but now all these other issues are going through my head of how complicated it would be for the parents. Perfect scenario for the kids though IF (in a perfect world) it could be managed.
Yes these were the thought that was going through my head. I was soooooo against the idea that I had long decided that if my ex was going to fight me on it and the judge was going to FORCE my children into this scenario that I'd gladly give up custody and have fortnightly visitation - I was THAT against it! Thankfully it never came to that so I never had to make the ultimate sacrifice. I would have done though...to save my kids from years of this!
You cannot just say 'this' should be the rule and leave it at that. Oh, except for 'this' and 'this' and 'this'.
There can be no 'blanket solution'. It's not black and white.
I also don't understand how it can possibly be beneficial for the kids who have previously always been in mums care and never in childcare to suddenly have to go to care on dads week so that dad can work, but that childcare placement would still then need to be paid for on mums week regardless of whether it was needed or not.
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