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    Quote Originally Posted by Lovemyfam View Post
    Do you think that only a good parent will follow around the other parent as much as they want to move? So say they move back to the support network and the other parent moves to, then they move across to another state and on and on should there be some sort of limit on how much this person can move and string along other people or is it just whatever they want?
    Let's just assume that the "support network" stays put, shall we? By support network, we're talking family, friends, work etc. These things do not 'move' constantly. Not sure where you were going with that idea.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lovemyfam View Post
    Be it male of female its the same we dont even need to include sexes in it because then it becomes something its not we are talking about custodial and non custodial parents I would feel the same no matter the sex as far as my posts go that s why I stopped using sexes because to me it doesnt matter the sex here
    Well I said single mum bc I'm a woman?? *looks down top* yerp still a woman

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    Quote Originally Posted by Chew the Mintie View Post
    I find it weird that the one person in this thread who left her ex behind in another country finds it hard to believe that many men just aren't interested in maintaining regular contact.
    lol guess you missed where I said I knw there are deadbeats. Did you miss that? Maybe go back a few posts and find it then come here and say I dont believe in deadbeats.

    Quote Originally Posted by Ana Gram View Post
    I'm not sure how that would happen. Unless the entire support network moved multiple times.

    I think the term 'good parent' really needs to be dropped as well. Especially since your post is implying that the 'good parent' is the one who didn't move.

    Also, what makes you think that the non-custodial parent is moving as well?
    Ok someone said that a good parent would let the other parent move etc, I simply reversed it so someone elses words just with swapping the parents thats all see how silly it sounds when you turn it around? So if its silly to think that only a good parent would stay put its also silly to think that only a good parent would move around.

    Quote Originally Posted by Hollywood View Post
    Let's just assume that the "support network" stays put, shall we? By support network, we're talking family, friends, work etc. These things do not 'move' constantly. Not sure where you were going with that idea.
    Just that what happens when the parent says, ok I am fine I don't need my network anymore I want to live in Tasmania what happens?

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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    Well I said single mum bc I'm a woman?? *looks down top* yerp still a woman
    fair enough

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    Default 50/50 Shared Care: Do you think it is realistic?

    Quote Originally Posted by Ana Gram View Post
    Honestly, I find your posts read a little like a ****** of consciousness which makes them difficult to follow sometimes.

    Again, it comes back to what is best for the children. And personally, I think that if the custodial parent needs to move closer to a support network so that life is less of a struggle, that is ultimately what is best for the children.
    In my case I was talking about where the dad is good and custody is 50-50 (or pretty close to that). If a dad can't be stuffed with 50-50 then damn right the mother should be able to seek support elsewhere.

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    Default 50/50 Shared Care: Do you think it is realistic?

    Quote Originally Posted by Lovemyfam View Post
    Just that what happens when the parent says, ok I am fine I don't need my network anymore I want to live in Tasmania what happens?
    You're making this about more than what it is.

    Most of us on this thread are saying that if its for support network or the difference between living in poverty or not, then it's in the kids best interests to move.

    No one is saying that custodials should be able to move 'on a whim' or 'just because'.

    Lets not forget that it's better for kids if their parents are happy and healthy, both emotionally and physically. If staying in an area where someone was completely cut off and ostracised would impact negatively on their health, why in earth should they have to stay there??

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lovemyfam View Post
    Ok someone said that a good parent would let the other parent move etc, I simply reversed it so someone elses words just with swapping the parents thats all see how silly it sounds when you turn it around? So if its silly to think that only a good parent would stay put its also silly to think that only a good parent would move around.
    I think you got the wrong end if the stick with that one. I'm fairly sure what was meant was that if the custodial parent needed to move due to lack of support or financial issues, a 'good parent' would want their children to have a better situation. And yes, that may mean moving away from the non custodial parent.

    Just that what happens when the parent says, ok I am fine I don't need my network anymore I want to live in Tasmania what happens?
    Then it is something that needs to be negotiated with the non custodial parent. And in that conversation, the two parents work out the pros and cons of such a move for the children and decide from there.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    In my case I was talking about where the dad is good and custody is 50-50 (or pretty close to that). If a dad can't be stuffed with 50-50 then damn right the mother should be able to seek support elsewhere.
    I think this tends to come back to whether of not 50/50 is a realistic achievement. I would think that for it to work well, the parents need to live close to each other. That can be difficult enough sometimes, especially if one or both of the parents are stuck renting.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ana Gram View Post
    I think you got the wrong end if the stick with that one. I'm fairly sure what was meant was that if the custodial parent needed to move due to lack of support or financial issues, a 'good parent' would want their children to have a better situation. And yes, that may mean moving away from the non custodial parent.



    Then it is something that needs to be negotiated with the non custodial parent. And in that conversation, the two parents work out the pros and cons of such a move for the children and decide from there.
    Ok that makes more sense was feeling some people thought it ok for one parent to move when they want but seems its more get to an area they can have support and live then stick put unless both parents agree etc

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ana Gram View Post
    I think this tends to come back to whether of not 50/50 is a realistic achievement. I would think that for it to work well, the parents need to live close to each other. That can be difficult enough sometimes, especially if one or both of the parents are stuck renting.
    Yes, they would absolutely have to live close to each other. Once the child(ren) start school, it just wouldn't be possible/practical if one of the parents didn't live near the child's school.


 

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