Can you accept that some non custodial parents are deadbeats, just as some custodial parents are too? why in your eyes is every example of a deadbeat dad either untrue or it's always the mother's fault?
As opposed to a 'good' custodial parent who doesn't ask for a cent in CS, allows the ex to constantly dictate how she lives her life and is fine with his deadbeat behaviour? it goes both waysOk so to be a good non custodial parent you have to let the custodial parent do as they pleases and follow them around as they move? What of any other kids they have? Do they get to be parent of the year if they rent a moving van for the moving parent too? That is the craziest thing I have heard.
If its hardship and no way they can survive I can see a need and I know this happens but I dont think it happens as often as its being let on here.
Again, it comes back to what is best for the children. And personally, I think that if the custodial parent needs to move closer to a support network so that life is less of a struggle, that is ultimately what is best for the children.
As to how often it really happens, I don't know. What I do know is that the women that have shared their stories in this thread I know have agonised over their decision to move away.
This thread is giving me the twitchy eye and I'm not even a single mum. No wonder those in this thread that are single are flaring up. *backs away slowly *
Last edited by delirium; 15-12-2012 at 21:36.
I find it weird that the one person in this thread who left her ex behind in another country finds it hard to believe that many men just aren't interested in maintaining regular contact.
I think the term 'good parent' really needs to be dropped as well. Especially since your post is implying that the 'good parent' is the one who didn't move.
Also, what makes you think that the non-custodial parent is moving as well?
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