Last edited by Pesca77; 15-12-2012 at 17:39.
I went through a bit of this with my ex when mine was a newborn, it didn't go through court but he threatened to give formula because he was restricted to two hour access due to breastfeeding. It was awful.
OP - my neighbor does 50/50 care successfully. Her 3 kids spend one week with her, the next with Dad. They are older though (12,15,18) and live close by to each other too. Works very well for them.
As far as breast feeding mothers go, when I was still breast feeding my son at 12 months, he was only allowed with his dad for 4-5 hours at a time until I had finished.He was also supportive of his son being breast fed, which made the situation easier.
I did have a divorce lawyer when we separated/ divorced and she stated that I was to have majority of custody whilst I was still breast feeding.
Stiflers Mom (15-12-2012)
if the father is a good parent...he should want the mother of his children to have a good support network/access to employment/not live in poverty.
If a woman has moved during the marriage to a place that benefits the father and places her at serious disadvantage...it is not right that he can force her to stay there.
I think 50/50 would only work in very rare circumstances....for me it would have been a disaster and my ex buggered off over seas for a few years anyway.
If one of the parents is working full time and the other isn't...what happens then? Why should the kids be stuck in daycare when they could be with their parent?
If the children have always been at home with a parent, then that parent should be able to continue as they were. For MANY parents, when they split...the alternate weekend access is more time then they ever spent with their kids before the split.
I am glad that my ex never wanted 50/50...in fact even now he sees him 1 night a f/n, often cancels if DS has plans that would require any effort from him and does not EVER contact between visits. It used to upset me that he cared so little...now, i know that DS benefits because he has a stable environment with clear expectations with which to grow up in and he is thriving.
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