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    Default 50/50 Shared Care: Do you think it is realistic?

    A lot is said about 50/50 shared care, especially in the media and on this forum. But do you think it is realistic?



    Personally, no, I don't think it is a realistic option. I know it wouldn't work for our situation as we are in different states.

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    Default 50/50 Shared Car: Do you think it is realistic?

    No I don't think it's realistic at all. I'm sure it can work in some cases but not in mine.

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    Default 50/50 Shared Car: Do you think it is realistic?

    I think it's rediculous for most families. In my situation when bubs is born fob and I will be living two hours apart. Might be more realistic if I stayed here five minutes from him, but it would be so disruptive for the child as I know my rules and fobs will be completely different and I can imagine we'd have a lot of emotional and behavioral issues with the kid.

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    Default 50/50 Shared Car: Do you think it is realistic?

    It would be totally unrealistic for my family if we ever split as my husband's hours are long.

    I think it can work in some instances. My sister and her ex managed it without any problems, but once they reached a certain age, the kids chose to live with who they wanted and saw the other parent on weekends.

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    It would not work for us as my ex lives way too far away for getting the children to school.

    I don't think it should be a blanket 50-50, it should always be case by case as it is. I also think for it to work that the parents would have to have a pretty amicable relationship.

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    I think it can work in certain circumstances - parents living close together and being committed to consistency in rules etc.

    In most cases though, not particularly realistic.

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    Default 50/50 Shared Car: Do you think it is realistic?

    Well in our situation it works nearly perfectly. But it's not week on week off.
    We do, two, two, three and then it switches.

    In saying that, we only live 20mins apart and her school is exactly in the middle of both houses.

    My step daughter seems pretty well adjusted, and calls both her mums house home and our house home.
    We and BM also try to keep each other informed about anything important that has happened at each house etc

    So yes, it can work but I doubt it would work for a lot of situations.
    There needs to be a lot of honesty and A LOT of constructive communication.

    It took heaps of ups & downs to get where we are now though.

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    I think it's the ideal situation, but depends on a lot of different things to be successful, including location, relationship between parents, their approach to coparenting...

    I hated only seeing my dad fortnightly. Once I turned 12 I lived 70/30, mostly with my dad.

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    Default 50/50 Shared Car: Do you think it is realistic?

    It could probably work for us eventually, and DD has requested one week with me, one week with her Dad. At the moment it's not feasible as he works three different jobs that change every week, so the organizational side of things wouldn't be good.

    When DD is old enough to basically look after herself (pack her own school bag, remember her jumper etc) I think it will be good. We have a very amicable relationship and talk every day so I guess we are the exception...

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    Default 50/50 Shared Care: Do you think it is realistic?

    Shared parenting isn't the same as 50/50 shared custody.

    But I do have a close friend who manages 50/50 shared custody with her ex and it works well for all of them.


 
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