Ok so I'm going to try not to sound like a massive whingey pants here - if you were the 2nd bio mum (that's hopefully going to be me in about 7.5 months time) how did you find dealing with medical professionals?
So far even our own family GP (who we love and has been brilliantly supportive) has downplayed my BFP with a 'oh you girls have been here before, there's not much I can tell you'. She didn't offer me a dating scan because 'the first one is so exciting but surely you are ok to wait until the 12 week scan with this one and save yourselves a bit of cash' - said in the nicest way with good intentions. She was just thinking of our limited budget.
DP had to actually say that, no we are just as excited now and can we please have another dating scan? GP was fine with this and gave me a referral.
So how do you tell medical people that yes, you have a child but you want to be treated as though this is your first pregnancy (because after all, it IS!). I don't want to be rude or deny the existance of my first child, but I don't want to be treated as thou I've been pregant before either. Any hints or snazzy phrases you have used to get the message across?