Sorry that's not dud interview, rather a dud interviewer. I'd give them the feedback.
My husband has a demanding job that takes him away from us at short notice for indeterminate periods of time. He was asked about my work and our child care arrangements when he went for and won a promotion 2 years ago.
Had the same thing happen to me, except I was not given a receptionist position with a recruitment company...that I was also signed on with!
Prior to that interview, I had completed a traineeship with a governement agency and had worked for years within the same company, but because I had young children and had been out of work for a short amount of time, they decided I couldnt handle working full time as a receptionist for them.
Needless to say, they also never bothered putting me forward for interviews and I actually found myself a really good job, with great pay, where I was well respected...back in the government.
I would now never EVER recommend that agency to anyone.
Sorry you didnt get it.
Personally, I think employers have a right to know exactly who they are about to hire and should be allowed to ask those kinds of questions. In saying that, I dont see a problem in you giving them feedback if you feel you need to. I personally wouldnt bother, Id just move on, but if it is bugging you then go for it. You didnt get the job so what harm can it do?
It is against the law to request information about someone’s personal background or attributes – such as their age, marital status or parental status – and then refuse them a job based on this information.
If it were me I would make a complaint to the Equal Opportunity Commission in your state. It won't get you the job, but it may help prevent someone in the future being faced with an illegal question such as the one you were asked.
I don't think it's against the law to request it, you just have to have the right to decline to give it without penalty. They've given a very generic reason for not getting the position ('not right at this time') so I don't think Equal Opportunity would be able to do much.
Cut your losses, learn and grow from it and move on If you think they don't have a good family attitude towards people with kids then it probably wouldn't have worked out in the long term.
I've been asked similar (not exactly the same as I didn't have kids but I had other responsibilities). It can affect your availability and reliability in their eyes. I think it's perfectly acceptable for them to make sure that the person they hire has things planned out and back up plans.
Oh and as for the email, no I wouldn't say anything. You may be kicking yourself but there's just no point and even if you word it as carefully as possible, it may come across in a negative light on you.
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