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    So yesterday I went for an interview with a workplace that I really admire. The interview went for 30 minutes and then I was asked to stay behind for the work meeting.

    Within the first few minutes of the interview one of the panel (who I have greatly admired from a distance) asked me the age of my children, my daycare arrangements and where I get support from if I need back up care. I was so taken aback as I have never been asked about my childcare arrangements and I fumbled the rest of the interview as I was then on the back foot. Anyway the woman called me today whilst I was busy saying she 'didn't think the timing was right for me in this role' and she felt 'I didn't have the required experience (I have more than enough in this specialised area). I thanked her for the opportunity, let her know I was disappointed and I hung up.

    I am now feeling that I need to let her know that I spent most of the interview feeling disempowered and ill at ease due to the childcare questions. If I don't share this information with her then I don't feel I am being true to myself and congruent. I don't expect it to change anything nor would that be the purpose of an email but I don't want to waste time kicking myself if I don't say anything. She is quite a powerful person in my field so I would word it carefully.

    What do you think? Would you say something in order to be true to yourself?

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    I don't think it's an appropriate question to be asked in an interview tbh.

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    I would be speechless if I were asked that in an interview.

    Its entirely irrelevant to your experience, skills and abilities.

    I'm not sure what I would do, sorry.

    I think you've been unfairly dealt with.

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    So did you volunteer the information about children, or did they ask?

    I feel that it is appropriate to give them feedback on the interview process. Surely grilling someone about childcare is not on, and certainly not on at the outset.

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    I don't think a back up letter to the company or email (if she has already shared her email address with you) would be a bad thing. You could just do it to 'leave the door open' and thank her for her time and letting you meet the rest of the team, but if you point out that you were put out by the child care questions it might put some emphasis on this point. It may not be right to use this as a criteria to hire you or not, but I agree that you would have to be very careful in how you word it. You have already said that you told her you were dissapointed, but you can let her (ie the company) know that down the track you would still be interested in the role if it became available again.

    Handling it with kid gloves might just open the door for you in the future. Sad but true.

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    Sorry just to add - is the position a 'normal' working role, or is it nights/shifts etc? Still might not make it right to ask the questions, but the company might be just working out if you are indeed the right person for the role?

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    Quote Originally Posted by SpecialPatrolGroup View Post
    So did you volunteer the information about children, or did they ask?
    I have reduced my work contracts over the past 18 months (I usually have a few at one time) and they noticed the gap so asked what I had been doing so I said working and parenting which I felt was honest.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Hulahoop View Post
    Sorry just to add - is the position a 'normal' working role, or is it nights/shifts etc? Still might not make it right to ask the questions, but the company might be just working out if you are indeed the right person for the role?
    Yes it is shifts but short shifts between 9-5pm.

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    I doubt many people can afford childcare without first having a job to pay for it, so someone's child care arrangements should have no bearing whatsoever on their 'suitability' for a job.

    I think you've been discriminated against OP, purely because you have children. If I were you, I'd probably have lost my 'admiration' for this company by the end of the phone call.

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    I experienced a similar question in an interview and I had to pretty much promise that having a child wouldn't get in the way of my job. (what I do is quite specialized and not many people could take over if I was absent)

    I would honestly answer the question saying you have a great supportive family willing to help out (even if this isn't the case)

    I should add that I have had to go home early one day when my DS was sick and my boss was ok with it.


 

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