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    Default How do you teach a 4 year old to be grateful?

    Sounds familiar but in this case it is 43 year old DH! Whinging about wanting new toys and junk he doesn't need. He has so much stuff but it is never enough. I am trying unsuccessfully to teach him to be grateful for what he has as many people would love half the things he has.

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    We follow the same theory as Aquillah. I have never had any probs with the kids and wanting things...its probably because they have very very rarely got "stuff" in between birthdays and christmas . I just say no. The children only get pocket money if they help out around the house. I tell them mum and dad have to work hard to get things "just for fun" so they have to also (obviously they get their big ticket items for Xmas/bday). This year my 6yo saved $130 to buy a DS, he was so proud of himself, and so was I! My 9yo DD however will often spend her money before she earns it!

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    Default How do you teach a 4 year old to be grateful?

    DD1 drives me mad with this. It's also hard because we split parent and whilst I tend to spoil to an extent ex-DH spoils them even more. So now it's a constant, "but Dad lets us do this. But Dad gets us this."

    We actually had a huge fight about it today (DD1 and I.) I feel like I know how to stop it but it is so hard when their Dad isn't on board and cares more about keeping the peace short term then the long term consequences.

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    Default How do you teach a 4 year old to be grateful?

    I would examine firstly why you feel the need to provide so much when he needs so little.

    Do you feel you need to do this because you didn't have as many things growing up? Do you work out of home so miss him during the day? Do you feel like you cannot say no for a particular reason?

    I find I try to compensate for my lack of 'toys' or getting what I really wanted as a kid by getting something nearly everytime we go out - it may be small like a lip gloss or a horn for her bike or something like that - but I know that it's more to do with me and less about my kid.

    When I am more sure of this, I find that I am more confident in the fact my child will not die without it and I'm not breaking them or ruining their childhood - therefore NO comes easier and without guilt.

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    Default Re: How do you teach a 4 year old to be grateful?

    Quote Originally Posted by Cleo77 View Post
    Sounds familiar but in this case it is 43 year old DH! Whinging about wanting new toys and junk he doesn't need. He has so much stuff but it is never enough. I am trying unsuccessfully to teach him to be grateful for what he has as many people would love half the things he has.
    This sounds like my dh too! He grew up in a third world country, silly me thought this would make him grateful no it just seems to make him want things more like he has got something to prove to the world

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    I think my DS is appreciative because he has so few toys! Like at the moment, he pretty much just has a few toy cars, a bike, a toy firefighter set and a couple of teddies and a toy truck thing (he has more toys at his dad's I think). He makes his own fun, and also plays the games on my iPhone occasionally. He doesn't even notice that other kids get a tonne of presents at Christmas time. He thinks that Santa will only be bringing him ONE toy. He does ask for toys at the shops, but I don't have the spare money for that right now and I generally have to say no. Sometimes he chucks a tantrum, but he gets over it pretty quickly. No means no and he realises that pretty quickly.


 

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