So I need some help. My DH has ALWAYS been hesitant to buy a house. He always says it would be awesome to own our own house, it would be awesome to not be paying off someone else's mortgage. BUT as soon as I start talking about actually doing it, he freaks out. He doesn't want to be stuck living in the same area for ever. He sees it as he will never go over seas or go on another holiday because we will have a mortgage to pay. He doesn't seem to understand that the money I save from our incomes every week would then not need to be saved for a house deposit, but could be put towards a holiday!! I think his biggest thing is just being stuck in Sydney, as we have always talked about moving away eventually. But in saying that, it's years before we could possibly move away!!?? And he knows this!
We now have an opportunity to buy our own house, with just a small change to our original plan. There will need to be two houses, or a granny flat, as my mum will be coming to live with us for a couple years. For the last 4 years my mum has been caring for her dying parents. My grandad passed away first, and a stroke has now taken my nan. My parents are divorced, and my brother and I both live in Sydney. Since I have become pregnant (my mums first grandchild) mum has been getting very grandmotherly and having something to look forward to. So she has decided she wants to move to Sydney to be near us. She wants to be here to help, as I will be trying to finish my degree after bub is born. And she would be giving us quite a substantial help with our deposit so that our repayments would be smaller. She won't be working, which is why she wouldn't buy her own house, and she wants to help DH and I buy our first home. I see a lot of positives here, and only a few negatives. DH keeps thinking of negatives. He doesn't understand that my mum is a very independent person, and isn't going to be in our business. And isn't going to be telling us what to do. He keeps thinking of what it would be like living with HIS mum - a complete nightmare!
Does anyone have any advice? How can I make him understand it would be temporary, not for 40 years until my mum passes away?