Stiflers Mom (12-12-2012)
I mean watching him open present after present and my kids not understanding. My son who was 5 at the time (more around the mental age of 3 or 4) asked is mine next, each time a present was passed you would see his little hand go up thinking it was for him, yes they passed the presents to one of my kids to pass to SS I wanted to slap them but I didnt I just walked outside and cried.
Yes my kids have their own grand parents but we had to move across the states (3k miles away) to help her mother because she had a stroke, we sold our house gave away everything we owned and only took what kids stuff we could fit into a van. So they didnt see my mother, she did mail them presents and she always included my SS she never skimped on his presents and got him nice things just like she did my kids.
I could see my ex's mother and sister being like that FOBS.
My ex MIL wants me to have more babies. They won't be related to her biologically but I think she wouldn't care. She'd fuss over it anyway. I also think Ex SIL would be similar.
It's really nice to know that people like that are in your life... They don't care about you just cos you're related... They care cos they're lovely people.
I wish I could swap them for DP's family. Lol.
I can understand that some situations are different, that fobs family barely know this boy and he has a family of his own to spoil him over xmas and the likely scenario is that he is with his other side of the family being cared for and spoiled rotten. That I totally understand!!
I don't quite get big family functions as LMF mentioned where one child is spoiled but others invited but treated differently. A child being at his mum's house over xmas so not receiving a gift makes sense, being invited and then being given a $2 toy - nonsense! Just as I am not technically 'part' of DP's family (not biologically and not even through marriage) I am not invited to their dos and leave with $2 gifts haha.
Lovemyfam - I would have been devastated for your children! What an awful thing to do to children! They're just kids.
I'm lucky in that dh's parents see my kids as their grandchildren, When people ask how many grandkids they've got, they always include mine. I'm not the only one either dh's brother married a woman who already had 3 children...so the grandparents include mine and her children...so that's SEVEN children that aren't biologically related to them that they gladly have adopted. They don't buy presents for every single one of them for every single occasion either. They actually don't see them a whole lot, but if we're all together for a family event like christmas then my kids are always included.
5 year old got a generic hot wheel
the 7 year old got a knock off barbie
the 9 year old got a notebook with puppies on it
The presents I remember SS getting was
2 huge boxes of Magnetics (my 5 year olds favorite thing at that time) and a Nintendo DS, my SS aunt also took SS to the mall and christmas light displayed which he promptly told the kids how great it was when he got home.
God the more I talk about these things the more I hate my ex total biatch
I am totally prepared to pull rank, and have already dropped a few comments when watching TV or something... even just making up fictional people to b*tch about... "Oh, my friend... blah blah." Then add in the step-child getting treated like crap story... show my absolute disgust. Do a "that's so unfair and I can't believe what kind of horrible people would treat a child like that!" and leave it there. I have my rant and rave about fictional people, but I'm hoping the message gets across that I will never put up with that BS.
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