Personally i do think it lacks class and I hope nobody gets hurt feelings
I guess I wouldn't expect my son's father's parents to buy mine and DP's (hypothetical) biological child presents. With any luck they will never, EVER cross paths (we can only hope).
If my DP's parents treated DS differently though, that would cut deep. Yes, DS has his own grandparents, but DP and I raise him together and no differently to a bio child of our own. He is a part of me, and DP willingly moved in with me with the intention of having a family. If he was treated as a second rate citizen I'd be peeved, but thankfully in my case it's a non-issue.
He doesn't live with us and has therefore developed a completely, seperate relationship with my family than my own children.
He gets "treated" differently because he is?
And I say that without malice. I just don't understand the logic of where it should stop?
Should they ring him on his birthday? Put him in their will?
Include him in their photos of their grandchildren?
A grandparent relationship didn't develop and they shouldn't be called petty or cruel for that fact.
I didn't call anyone petty or cruel, I mentioned that my DS would be made to feel second rate because he has grown up knowing my DP's parents as his other grandparents. If they suddenly decided that they now have biological grandchildren so he can have cheaper/less presents despite the fact DP treats him as his own child, yes I'd be extremely angry.
I did mention that I do not expect FOB's parents to buy my and DP's biological children presents *shudder* and I do not believe this is treating them as less, but because the two are completely separate.
I agree with you and was just pointing out that the two situations are very very different.
DH's family treat my DS as their own and exactly the same as our biological children because of the relationships that have developed so I totally get what you're saying.
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