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    Hi everyone just wanting some help with how everyone made there decisions on whether to go back to work of be a sahm? I'm absolutely torn I can't bear the thought
    Of having to leave dd in a couple of months, but I do like to be able to buy whatever we want whenever we want! I don't know what will be more beneficial for dd having me home or more financial freedom! I find my Jon stressful also and im toying with the idea of changing careers. We are also planning on having our kids close together so if I stayed home it would probably be for a few years! Thanks in advance!

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    If you really want to stay at home, that's what I would do. I'd rather pull my belt in a bit (financially) and spend that time with my kids when they are so little. You could always use a bit of your time to retrain for your new career, and that way when you go back to the workforce in a few years (if you want to) then you can go and do what you really want to Good luck with it all

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    I prefer the balance of part-time work but that's just me! Only you can know what's more important to you though.

    I think it would be really hard to do just for the money though - you'd need to enjoy your work I think to make it worthwhile.

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    Everyone is different, but I preferred to be poor and be with my baby at home.

    It was just what I felt was right for me/us. It was important for me to be the one having primary care of my daughter, and putting her daycare was never a real option for me.

    In future, I don't want to be working either, while I have small children. Maybe from about age 3 or 4 I could work part-time, but not before. To make sure that it's financially viable though, we're just not getting pregnant until we can both afford me to be at home full-time with a baby, and still be able to buy everything we want/need. I'm lucky that DP works in a good industry.

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    It depends. With dd1 I needed to go back to work part time as I was very depressed at home. So I went back when she was 10wks old for 8hrs/wk. The max I worked was 16hrs/wk before I went on mat leave again.

    With dd2 I need to go back to work cos we bought a house that needs some work done to it. So I'm heading back when dd2 is 7mths old for 2days/wk. I don't want to this time but I need to so that we can finish of this silly rennos ASAP.

    But I like my work and its very family friendly. I would not leave my kids for a job I hated. I'd sell up first.

    Like KW123 said - many women enjoy part time paid work. Is that a possibility for you?

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    Default Go back to work or become sahm?

    For me, I returned to work 2 days a week for financial reasons and also so I could keep my job open and take a second lot of maternity leave when I have my second baby - I didn't want to leave DS at all. For me, two days a week still gave me the majority of time with DS, plus the income was enough to pay for our groceries, much better than living in massive financial stress which we were before,

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    Also if you want to qualify for PPL and work mat leave for the next bub it makes sense to head back for a bit.

    By going to work 2 days a week now I guarantee that I will have 6wks work mat leave plus 18wks PPL. That's alot of money to reject.
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    There's quite a few studies showing that mothers who also do paid work are happier than those who don't, so I'd take that into consideration too. It might be a factor that comes into play after a certain period of time.

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    Default Go back to work or become sahm?

    Personally I like the balance of working pt and family life. I work purely for me (selfish maybe) but I have never had the desire to be a sahm.

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    I like the option of part time work too. I like doing work and that social contact and the opportunity to use my brain. The other thing is that I bring in money for the household allowing my dh to stay in a lowish paying job that he really loves. If we had to rely purely on my dh's income he would need to get a higher paying job. I also have a career so that should my dh lose his job or not be able to work I have the option to work more and fully support the family.

    Is part time work easy with a baby? Heck, no. A lot of the time I would love to be home full time and going back when my dd was only 5 months old was *really* hard. 12 months off would have been much better in many ways, but then perhaps I would have been a lot more scared about going back to work.


 

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