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    Default 4 yr old behaviour

    Hi, Im wondering if Im not the only anxious Mum going through this and after some advice?

    DS is 4.5 yrs old and attends a Kindy program (QLD) 3 days a week.

    Most of his class is off to Prep next yr but DS is having another yr as hes too little only getting in by one week to attend Prep.

    The last few weeks his teachers have mentioned that at times he can be quite cheeky, finding it hard to get him to listen at times and sometimes engaging rough play with his mates and quite boisterious.They also mentioned he can be a bit of a follower but last Thursday he got caught up quite a bit in the crowd of kids and was naughty by not listening and throwing things on the roof!! Wtf!! Last Wednesday they said he was great but back to being naughty on Thursday

    Is this a stage? Im so worried I cant curb this before he goes to school in 12 mnths time.

    Are all 4 yr olds like this? We cant remember with our first son, hes 8 now. They did say that the kids are getting ratty being end of yr but Im worrying myself sick thinking Im the Mum of a "ratbag" its like going to the principals office every school pickup!

    Ive tried talking to him about it, he can be so sweet and good but then be ao impulsive and not think His kindy teachers and I are starting a behaviour chart this week and Ive just started him on fish oil. Cant hurt right?? His diet is pretty good, I dont load them up with sugar and really watch the levels in foods.

    Thank you!

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    Default 4 yr old behaviour

    I have no advise and am no expert but have a son the same age who also misses the cut of by 4 weeks. Even if he didn't I would be keeping him back a yr too because he also displays similar behaviour at times. I'm also thinking and hoping its a phase as he would not be ready for prep like this. He can change from a quiet well behaved child to a rough crazy child. I def believe its a maturity thing as I watched my nephew a couple of yrs ago be a lot worse than this and now 6 he is a lot more calm relaxed and has changed a lot.

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    Default 4 yr old behaviour

    Thank you I know it sounds bad but I relieved to hear it as I know its normal behaviour and I can work on that I guess. Today has been a shocker.

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    Mines doing another year at Preschool for a lit of the reasons you described. He's a great kid, smart, kind, sociable but its just not ready or maybe a little immature to move up.

    I dont know if its normal, but his preschool teachers aren't concerned at all. He's just a full on kid that needs a bit more time to mature

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    Thanks WineTime. I guess Im concerned cos whenever I how his day is, Im met with "hes actually been naughty today" More from one of the teacher, shes fresh from doing Uni so maybe shes not as aware? The other teacher is more relaxed about it all when I talk to her like she knows they can be like this at times?
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    Is there a head teacher or room leader? If you're concerned I'd make a time to come and chat with them when you're by yourself. Then you can express your concerns and get some dedicated feedback.

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    The head teacher is the one fresh from uni as she has the Bach of Teaching under her belt whereas the other teacher has a diploma and is outranked. I did speak to then head one last week and she was helpful and did say it was normal, but I still feel like a bad mum who has no clue whats shes doing shes doing up some special charts for him this weekend. I think shes a little taken back as hes always been so quiet and shes noticed hes coming out of his shell more and displaying more confidence. So she is a good teacher really!
    DH suggested talking to the director as shes got 30 yrs of Kindy under her belt and more approachable and realistic, if that makes sense? The experience she has is worth more than the Bach degree at times IMO!

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    Sometimes the "fresh" teachers don't realise what REAL 4 year old behaviour is like. Sometimes they are still in the mind set that "Kindy" or "Pre Prep" is all sunshine and lollipops. Don't stress reality will kick in for her soon I've worked in the childcare industry for 12 years, I've seen it all!

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    Default Re: 4 yr old behaviour

    Sounds relatively normal. Also keep in mind that for alot of kids a hyperactive reaction to colours and flavours/additives can happen a day or 2 later! Something to keep in mind.

    Diet really DOES play a huge part in behaviour... Even if some people say it doesn't.

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    Default 4 yr old behaviour

    Thank you so much Its nice to hear from people in the industry and also about the food additives. I try to be so mindful of them, this time of the yr doesnt help but I do hold them back on going overboard on too much!

    Another idea was that his class is pretty big on Thursdays and he may just be competing for a place in the class. Thursdays they have over 100 kids in the centre, it can be chaos!
    Fingerscrossed for tomorrow please!


 

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