A bit of a spin off the last thread, but something I have been wondering!
DP isn't her father. But we were talking about what she should call his parents... DP wants her to call them pop and nan, because that's what his family has always called their grandparents. But it's not like we're married. I don't know why I feel weirded out like this, like I'm trying to smuggle my little baby wren into their nest of pelicans or something.
DD doesn't call DP dad, and it feels weird to suddenly start calling these people pop and nan. Too presumptuous, you know?
I haven't spoken to DP's mother about this, because it feels awkward. Like if I mention it, it will become an issue, or be disrespectful, because weirdly, I feel like DP's mother is kinda owned the respect of the title "nan" because she's very loving and wonderful and goes out of her way for us. She takes a lot of interest in DD. She's very thoughtful, and has spoken about DD to her grandchildren.
And yet... because DP and I aren't even engaged, I feel weird about it. Maybe I should just make DP propose already? We live together, he's already told his mother he wants to marry me, he's told me he wants to marry me, except he was all "I wanted to propose to you the first week you moved down here, except I didn't want to seem needy."
"WHY NOT NOW?"
Her 8 year old grand daughter says "if you marry uncle, you'll be my aunty!"
so I asked what would DD be, and she said "my cousin!"
If DP and I had children, his family would not view DD any different from their biological kin I imagine.
Should I just EMBRACE the whole thing, even though it bothers me a bit?