I guess no one would know I was 'pushing early' because I don't have vaginal exams to 'see how far along I am' so that I can 'get permission to push'.
My pushing stages have been very quick at home (twice <5min each) I guess if I was pushing for a long time or feeling like I was not getting anywhere I would try position changes, trying to clear any fears which might be inhibiting labour progression, I would try kissing hubby.
I started pushing whilst my midwife was out of the room.. She came to check me because I said I have to push, I can't not. I will never know how dilated I was as bubs head was already well down.. But I arrived at hospital only 3 hours prior at only 4cm. Our bodies KNOW what to do, left to their own devices. I guess one way around it would be to request minimal or no internals. And position changes as previously suggested
I figure my body will know what it's doing. If it's saying "PUSH WOMAN!" who am I to argue with it?
I just pushed when I felt the urge, I wasn't checked. Midwife just told me to listen to my body and if it says push, push.
I had overwhelming urges to push at around 5cms dilated. I was induced though so I blame the syntoconin. Dd was posterior. I couldn't stop myself from pushing and my cervix became very swollen. Dd was then essentially pushing against a swollen cervix and getting nowhere. The ob said I had to have an epi so I could relax, the swelling could go down and I could dilate. The midwives were pretty useless to be honest. They didn't attempt to change my position and weren't suggesting any other techniques to help. Having discussed this since then with other midwives and birth attendants there are apparently a few effective things you can try and you really need very supportive birth attendants who are there with you at every contraction.
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